Trying to get the girl jealous and not giving her much attention has only pushed the girl away from me. Why? Why is it so?

pringlydingly · 2022-02-28T13:35:31+00:00

The best pickup technique? Stop playing fucking games. And dont be a "perfect boi" and try to be charming and entertain her either.

Genuinely, just put yourself first, be who you are and do what you want. Dont let a girl dictate how you act and behave. Being grounded in yourself, be authentic in yourself, and you will attract the right girls. No need to make her miss you or whatever.

norwegiandoggo · 2022-02-28T13:44:52+00:00

If other women are chasing you it is good because it signals that you have value on the dating market. The more people want something, the more value we assume it must have.

But the more you are chasing other women the worse it is. Because it shows that you are less likely to be faithful and committed in a relationship (and women value commitment and faithfulness in a man). Plus if you need to chase a lot of women it signals that you have potentially low value and you're just desperate and will take any woman regardless of her value or connection you have with her.

Other women chasing you = good. You chasing other women = bad.

Makes sense?

hoonmasta19 · 2022-02-28T14:19:25+00:00

Cause she doesn’t like you

JenantD80 · 2022-02-28T14:54:19+00:00

That sort of nonsense works on girls who are unsure of themselves.

Someone who isn't is going to see through the bullshit game playing and leave you in her dust.

Leave her alone.

No_Buddy_ · 2022-02-28T13:27:38+00:00

Yeah no shit you're doing it wrong. You sound like you're following some dipshit pick-up artist advice. So you're telling me you think the best way to get her attention is by NOT talking to her and talking to other girls? JFC Just step back and consider that: does that make any sense. No, it makes zero fucking sense, it's a profoundly stupid, counter-intuitive, and frankly, embarrassing approach. Next you're going to tell me the best way to get a job is to NOT apply to it I suppose?

The best way to attract her is to talk to her and be charming. Be a good listener. Make her laugh. It's like you want some strategy to do all the hard work for her so you don't have to talk to her.

alikebabay · 2022-02-28T14:05:46+00:00

This push pull advice only works if you are 8 and she is a 6.

Shadow__Account · 2022-02-28T15:08:45+00:00

It works when she is already really into you and even than it only works when it at least seems legit. If she knows you have shit going on she will sense you are either not interested or playing games. The only time I’d intentionally not give a woman the attention I want to is when I’d feel needy and too much into her. Making her jealous is a whole different topic and a slippery slope too. It will work to make a neutral girl interested, but if someone is genuinely interested and you want to play mr player you are basically just saying you are not seriously interested or just a douche. So imo both things if you use them, it would be to get sex, not to use on someone you actually like

b_a_d_r0b0t · 2022-02-28T15:49:42+00:00

You are not hot enough for her

Most-Order-9464 · 2022-02-28T16:29:23+00:00

You arent the type of guy she wants or feel like she needs to come back too. Aka you arent hv enough, understand this when you pull back from a girl you must ffully understand and be ok with her walking away. Its a power dianamic whoever folds first loses. Anyways just self improve and move on is usually my answer for these things.

MentalHacksteacher · 2022-02-28T16:32:34+00:00

Anxiety and space fuels attraction but you don't add dredd to the relationship when your sexual market value is low, when a girl can do better than you and she is spoiled with options then it make a sense, girls aren't stupid they know when you are playing games, the push and pull game only draw a girl to you when she knows you are the best thing she can do otherwise it is counterproductive, some girls as well don't mind to stick around if they are jealous as long their jealousy is genuine and not manufactured by you, I guess most of women know the game better than some men but they just deliberately fail to hold their men accountable for playing these games when the man is a top shelf, the push pull game is very effective on women who experience some sort of scarcity when it comes to men. Only an opinion ))

Important-Quote9544 · 2022-02-28T19:27:45+00:00

Low interest from her end from the start

bandsupjay · 2022-02-28T22:31:51+00:00

Lol. My advice would be to stop giving a shit about that and just be normal bro. You fucked it up but caring too much and that probably made it seem like you were some jerk that wasnt interesting. Everythings cool when its done in moderation and you achieve that by just being normal and being authentic. Its cool to not care about a girl but at least form a bond or you just come off as not interested in her

Competitive_Duty2502 · 2022-03-01T02:19:02+00:00

I’m a girl and I highly oppose the push pull method, don’t do this. If you do make sure you show her that you like her

Title	Trying to get the girl jealous and not giving her much attention has only pushed the girl away from me. Why? Why is it so?
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Date	February 28, 2022 1:23 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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