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[–]Alive-Doughnut2345 5 points6 points7 points 4 years ago (6 children) | Copy Link
I almost never get choosing signals so I just give it a shot if I feel like it
[–]Perfect_War5446 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Gotcha
[–]EscapeVelocity83 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
You mean women dont make eye contact with you?
[–]TooMuchJibberish 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
You've gotten eye contact before? For how long?
[–]Alive-Doughnut2345 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
They do sometimes but that could mean anything and attraction may not be one of them
[–]hard9311 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
True. Unless you get a solid eye contact and a smile (which is usually rare for me), a simple eye contact can mean anything from a honest signal to a normal eye contact.
[–]Alive-Doughnut2345 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Especially in this age of masks where you can’t see the smile even if there is one. Eye contact means nothing these days.
[–]Crazy-Reason-5087 3 points4 points5 points 4 years ago (19 children) | Copy Link
Yes approach every girl you find attractive what’s the worst that can happen you get rejected? So what you at least approached her that’s enough for a confidence boost.
Ok, thanks!
[–]EscapeVelocity83 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Well, if you give them a prozac for the day, they sorta owe payment for it like if they got access to real prozac. Usually the guy gets paid in pussy, but if you approach a lot, most dont pay at all and the few you get barely make up for the value they get from it (women need to feel attractive far far more than they want to actually get laid)
[–]TooMuchJibberish 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (16 children) | Copy Link
what’s the worst that can happen you get rejected?
Public humiliation or trouble with law enforcement
[–]Crazy-Reason-5087 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (15 children) | Copy Link
Lol stop it
[–]TooMuchJibberish 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (14 children) | Copy Link
What? Lol I've personally received public humiliation after approaching, however I've known people that were reported to LE for coming off as "a creep".
I consider myself fortunate that I haven't gone through what those guys went through, I can't imagine being looked at as so undesirable that you were reported to the police for a simple small talk lol
[–]Crazy-Reason-5087 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (9 children) | Copy Link
What country are you in
[–]TooMuchJibberish 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (8 children) | Copy Link
U.S.A., and those guys that were reported I belive were from the U.K.
[–]Crazy-Reason-5087 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (7 children) | Copy Link
I’m in nyc maybe they were soliciting dude most guys do sound pretty desperate it’s that scarcity mindset really you get rejected say cool nice to meet you move on
[–]TooMuchJibberish 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (6 children) | Copy Link
Yeah, I don't keep beating around after I get told to piss off. I just apologize and leave them alone.
If there's something I've gotten really good at these past years is apologizing though, 100% rejection, 0 dates, and 90% apologizing lol
it’s that scarcity mindset
What does this mean exactly? Like I'm supposed to make myself believe I have a lot of options...even though I have none?
[–]Crazy-Reason-5087 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link
Dude you sound like you have low self esteem straight up. Don’t apologize don’t keep track of rejections just go out talk with people and be genuine but be courteous. “Scarcity mindset meaning wow this dude or chick is my only option if I get rejected my life is gonna end” listen if you wanna talk more pm me I have some time before I go to bed. I’ll add you
[–]TooMuchJibberish 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
Dude you sound like you have low self esteem straight up.
Not really, what makes you say that?
Don’t apologize don’t keep track of rejections just go out talk with people and be genuine but be courteous
I don't keep track of each one per say, but I don't really have to since I've never had a single success story. Hence all have been rejections.
I apologize most of the time since I was basically taking their time while they could have been doing something else.
Scarcity mindset meaning wow this dude or chick is my only option if I get rejected my life is gonna end
Ahh I see, so it's the other way around. Well, I don't think I don't think I have this mentality. I looked of dating like doing job interviews/job hunting, I just shot my shot whenever.
But the difference is I don't think people job hunt for more than 5 years without ever landing a job interview at the very least, (a date in this allegory). So eventually it starts to get to you after never having any success after all those years.
[–]Crazy-Reason-50871 point 4 years ago [recovered] | Copy Link
I don’t know Irl so I have no clue what to say next time when you get rejected just straight up ask why like say you genuinely want to know and what you can do to work on yourself
[–]TooMuchJibberish1 point 4 years ago [recovered] | Copy Link
Doesn't that come off as sort of desperate or needy though, I've been told to never ask for "feedback".
And wouldn't they mostly not give it to me anyway and would just lie to me to let me off "nicely"? Like: "I have a boyfriend", "you're not my type", or something along those lines? Wouldn't exactly be too helpful.
[–]5_7pickup1 point 4 years ago [recovered] | Copy Link
Dude definitely dont ask for feedback. Just move on. Dont say sorry just leave.
Be like okay bye. Or just say ok and walk away.
I will definitely say this in my next rejections
[–]5_7pickup 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
Reported to LE for what? Having a fucking conversation with another human being in public?
If youre getting reported to LE then youre just doing cold approach wrong.
[–]TooMuchJibberish 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Having a fucking conversation with another human being in public?
I suppose that's what those guys got reported for 🤷♂️
[–]5_7pickup 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Nothing done was illegal so i cant imagine what LE is gonna do.
“Omfg police he tried hitting on me at the park”
I cant imagine police would take this seriously.
[–]TooMuchJibberish 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Well I would assume it is something along the lines of a false accusation, because simply having a conversation isn't illegal
[–]EscapeVelocity83 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Well, responding to signals makes you submissive. Its OK though cause a lot of the signals tell you to act as though you are dominant
gotcha
[–]MrStallion22 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I mean there’s no wrong or right answer here.
One increases the chances that you get with a girl you’re into but has a higher chance of rejection.
The other decreases the chance you get with a girl you’re into but has a lower chance of rejection.
The choice is yours.
[–]mark1597 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I always figured I was at no to start but if I didn't say hello and that was the one that special one where would I have been
DALLAS OREGON
[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
You definitely should approach on choosing signals -girl probably likes you from the start- it's not submissive as others say here, it's smart, assertive and socially intelligent to approach girls that are open to you.
[–]thelambofdeth 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago* (2 children) | Copy Link
What if you don't get choosing signals?
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[–]thelambofdeth 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
How tf are you supposed to try you luck with receiving choosing signals? You can't make a girl five you signs bc she's closed off...that doesn't make sense lol. That's the whole point of a choosing signals...she's the one choosing.
I mean even if you look approachable, it doesn't mean women are interested. Especially if you're at a packed bar. She's too busy getting hit on by other dudes and just doing whatever to be giving out subtle hints and hoping some guys notice.
be aware of your surroundings and you will notice choosing signals everywhere.
Not necessarily, though. Yeah if you're good-looking or something...but just by the nature of logistics not everyone is going to get those signals or intetest...
[–]Ectoplasmic1984 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
i figure its also better if a guy approaches while choosing signals are emitted, so that way it extremely reduces the risk of the guy being labeled creepy or weird
Indeed
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