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[–]SJGekko 25 points26 points27 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
When she pulls back also pull back. Don’t give off any needy or eager vibes. Let her come back to you. Don’t reach out. If she never does reach out, great, plenty of other women to focus on.
[–]1stRoundDraftPick88 4 years ago [recovered] (1 child) | Copy Link
Facts
[–]oreopimp 3 points4 points5 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Not only facts. Gospel
She pulls back. You pull back. Don't ask for anything. Create a vacuum she can fill.
[–]Czekraft 5 points6 points7 points 4 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
4 dates in two weeks seems like taking things fast. Don’t know if she’s in school or what not, but people only have so much time in a week. When one part of their life succeeds (I.e dating you) other parts will suffer (e.g. her family life/ career/ school). You did your part, so now the only way to know is if she is really interest is if she contacts you herself when she is ready.
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[–]synaptic_density 4 years ago [recovered] (1 child) | Copy Link
I work in the medical field. Give her some time, buy her something for work (a nice blanket or some chocolates or something). omicron is messing everybody up. It's insane in practically every hospital...
[–]oreopimp 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Give her some time, buy her something for work (a nice blanket or some chocolates or something).
OP, only do this once she is re-investing. This isn't a misogynistic thing, but if you do this now, it will almost assuredly push her away even more with how distant she is being right now
[–]MikeAlphaGolf 5 points6 points7 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
If a girl is interested in you, you’ll know. The opposite is also true. Resist the urge for follow up texts and leave it with her. Sounds like you didn’t fuck her right and that bored her. Either that or she’s just busy with life, but in both cases you’ll be better off letting her contact you next.
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[–]oreopimp 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
One girl tried to do this to me. Held her hips down her as she tried to squirm away, it was like riding a goddamn bronco until she came.
[–]RoseTinted64 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
She met someone else or knows she can meet someone else soon. This is the game. Press on and don’t look back. Please do not believe that she will “come back when she’s ready”. Move on and mean it.
[–]Equivalent_Feature23 -1 points0 points1 point 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Maybe she is cheating you. She went with another guy, perhaps her ex, to the trip.
[–]ebmnm 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Ask her about about the trip but yea play it cool let her come to you sounds like shes just busy or confused with what she wants
[–]dasanman69 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
You hit the ball into her court, wait for her to hit it back.
[–]oreopimp 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
"Bob ross painting night 👨🏽🎨" -- dude really?
Specifically: You're moving at warp speed with a girl who's giving you all the signs to slow down. You push, she steps back. You push, she steps back. Etc. You've got to be more intuitively aware my man...stop thinking of what you want and pay attention to what she needs. Also when a girl is not only stepping back...but is giving you minimal responses...that is not the time to bust out the grand 'Bob ross painting night' -- I wouldn't offer anything at all, and if I did it would be something insanely low key and nothing particularly special I wasn't already doing anyway.
Generally: You need to slow your date game way down. I promise you, you keep up the 'heading for a relationship' intense dating over a 2 week period you are going to blow yourself out of knowing many good women. LEAVE THE RELATIONSHIP UP TO THE WOMAN, LET HER DECIDE WHEN YOU GUYS GET IN A RELATIONSHIP. Your only goal is to hook up, have a blast and live life...and if you're not committed: also be dating other women. Never mention or act like you are in a relationship until she brings it up first. Never pressure her to get in a relationship. Here with your actions you are pressuring her into a relationship, even when she is giving you signs she's not ready for that, and look what's happening she's growing more distant. If instead you'd just been 'hey see you around' and then text her 4-5 days later about when she's free, giving her space and letting her communicate with you more when she felt ready to and come closer to you when she was ready...right now it's likely she'd be closer to you, not more distant.
Your only option at this point imo: wait two weeks from last text. Text her something small...don't ask for anything...something like 'hey trouble' or a Meme you found funny or Happy Saturday etc. Something that doesn't require much of her as you have kind of pushed her away so you want to create pulls or vacuums that she can step towards you and fill.
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[–]oreopimp 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
I get that, it's sweet and a nice idea for a date. But save that stuff for much later on when girls have actually earned it. This girl, regardless of what you think, in two weeks has not really earned something like that yet. It should be a special thing...but things like that are really only special if she's totally invested.
Keep things low key, fun, hooking up, hanging out, etc at the beginning. It gives you a place to move up from as you both invest later on.
[–][deleted] 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Haven't lived your experience, so it's hard to say if it's a routine or just the way attraction works. If you're literally doing the same thing you can always find ways to keep it wild and entertaining.
Relationship game is harder. But I'll break it down simply what works for me: Let her decide when you're moving toward a relationship. Until then don't pressure her to be your girl. Just low key hang out with her, text only to make plans, and if she wants to communicate beyond that then communicate with her. After you hook up at some point if you guys are talking send her a sexualized text to see how she responds.As she wants to be in your life more and wants more of your time, she will talk with you more and more. You just chill, have fun, hook up. She cancels or flakes, no worries. No grand gestures. Save all that when she is investing hard into you. It also gives you a foundation to escalate from. If you start high you always have to stay high. If you start low key you can oscillate.Pay attention to her actions. Is she moving toward you (likely because you are chilling or "pulling" by not pushing her), staying neutral or moving away (because something is pushing her away). Her actions should tell you everything you need to know: When you need to hang back (pull), when to stay at the same level or when to be able to push a little more (if she's coming toward you and investing)
Hope this helps.
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