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[–]bean_addict 78 points79 points80 points 4 years ago (7 children) | Copy Link
Hold eye contact, then look at her lips, then back to eye contact. If she looks at your lips, go for it
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What if she looks away?
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[–]Theo_1013 5 points6 points7 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
There's like a cool down period?
[–]DudeJackson 11 points12 points13 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
before dinner it's 300 seconds. After consuming dinner, cooldown period goes down to 180 seconds. After consuming dinner and alcohol, it is 45 seconds.
[–]legendkeeper 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Except on every 5th Sunday of the 13th month when it's every 3.5s
[–]Kaneki_Keen 8 points9 points10 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Load a previous checkpoint
[–][deleted] 36 points37 points38 points 4 years ago (7 children) | Copy Link
I always test the waters with some physical contact. If she's not into you touching her arm, or thigh, or simply being very close to you, then she's not gonna want to kiss. If she's ok with that, she's most likely going to want to kiss you. Then just go for it.
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[–][deleted] 15 points16 points17 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Do what feels right to you. If you enjoyed the kiss, tell her she kisses really good. If you just want to hold her, do so. I guess it all depends on the situation. Sometimes the first kiss comes when saying goodbye after a date, so either you part ways, or you might end up having sex. Sometimes it's in the middle of the date and you just keep walking around, or stay on the bench holding each other. Just do what you feel it's the right thing to do, don't think "ok now I have to do this" let yourself loose and enjoy the moment.
[–]Fit_Calligrapher3549 6 points7 points8 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
She is pretty ok with physical contact. We went ice skating last time and held hands for quite some time. I am pretty sure she likes me but i am a little unsure how i should initiate the kiss on our next date.
Honestly i know that i have to just look her in the eyes, slow down and just go for it, but i am a little scared to fuck it up.
[–][deleted] 13 points14 points15 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Pretty certain she wants to kiss you, so honestly, there's no way you can fuck it up as long as you keep it simple. Just sit down close to each other, talk, initiate some physical contact, look her in the eyes, and lean in for the kiss. It's normal to be nervous, she will be too, but that's part of the thrill, it's why it makes the first kiss so exciting.
[–]Snoo-20788 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
If she's fine holding your hands then either she wants you to kiss her, or she's a total weirdo. So I'd say go for it.
[–]norwegiandoggo 15 points16 points17 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Lean in slowly after getting her comfortable with casual / friendly touching. You should quickly get a sense of her "safe space" and how close to her face she allows you to be. Lean in just 10%. Does she move away? Does she back of? You can always test for these things subtly.
[–]Fit_Calligrapher3549 8 points9 points10 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
It's going to be our third date. Do you think it's a little late by now to kiss. She is 21 and i am 25. We went ice skating the last time, held hands and had a great time, but i didn't go for a kiss... the good thing is she already texted me that she is looking forward to our next date :)
And by the way, go ice skating on your dates if possible, it was one of the best dates i ever had and it is a free ticket to hand holding and touching.
[–]Robofrogg1 10 points11 points12 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
You should have gone for the kiss, bro. It’s not too late but you damn well better do it on the next date or you will friend zone yourself. If you’re nervous that’s ok— just do it anyway. Even if it’s awkward it’s better than not doing it at all.
How to kiss: Stand still, look in her eyes, smile. Gently brush her hair out of her face and lean in a bit. Gently put your hands on her cheeks or back of neck and kiss. Be gentle, touch lips while mouth slightly open. There’s much more but that should get you started. Good luck!
[–]Fit_Calligrapher3549 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Yeah i know. I wanted to and i am pretty sure she too because we both took our sweet time to drop her of, but i was getting a cold sore so i didn't go for it...
[–]2udaylatif 8 points9 points10 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Escalate physical contact and go for the kiss after building up an increase in comfortable touch.
Greet with a hug and kiss on the cheek. Then you already broke that barrier of touch.
Hand on the back when walking. Move to holding hands. Arm around waist. Then prolonged eye contact and go for the kiss.
[–]pacg 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
This. The rule of thumb is to not let the kiss be the first physical contact.
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[–]Fit_Calligrapher3549 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Thats the plan, it's too much pressure on the end and you can't really use a good moment.
[–]Hungry_Leave_2910 5 points6 points7 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
You got it for sure don’t even stress fr. She’s prob been waiting on it already lol
[–]iJuiiCe_x 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Question, what was your first date, second date, and how did you meet her?
First one was christmas market and drinks afterwards, second one was ice skating and pizza. I met her through university, but because of covid and online-classes we didn't really get to know each other for almost a year.
The only stupid thing currently is that all restaurants and bars close down by 10pm because of covid... I'll ask her next time to watch a movie or something at my apartment, but i want to get the first kiss out of the way before getting intimate at my place.
[–]DrinksAreOnTheHouse 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Just go for it.
[–]Thatpillinibiza 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Start touching with hands and being playful
Then when in conversation stare at the eyes then lips tiger the closer you are the better
[–]DudeJackson 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
an idea: I'm assuming you guys will be using cameras with view finders.
Lead her to a street with warm lightings and good vibe. While she's looking into the view finder, just stand close and keep an eye on her. When she looks away from the view finder, look her in the eyes and compliment her, genuinely. Look at her lips for a bit and back to the eyes, see how she reacts and go from there.
This is coming from a guy. Maybe some ladies can give some input on whether this is good.
[–]Noblejunior 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Don’t think, just don’t think of kissing her, just know that you will kiss her. Because when you think it won’t happen, because your mind will be distracted.
Simple effect way is to know you kiss her create environment for that and just go for the kill
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[–]Noblejunior 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I don’t want to go in full details of many things that are wrong. But one thing is for you to change your perception of the date, meaning “you’re there to enjoy your company and she tagged along with or without her you will feel happy”. This mindset will relax your mind.
If you’re the shy type you can say or ask “ I want to kiss those lips” or “ I want to kiss you” at same time while leaning to kiss her. Make eye contact. Also don’t say those words while just standing there.
Ps: the environment means “how intimate you guys are in the date” example if you walking and holding hands you can just stop and draw her closer for the kiss.
[–]mightymite88 -2 points-1 points0 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Ask for consent
[–]fajitaondiznuts -2 points-1 points0 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Just ask. That’s all.
[–][deleted] 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I see so many boys saying this. But I'm yet to hear of a guy who got a lady, not a girl, by 'just asking' her.
[–][deleted] -2 points-1 points0 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Whip your dick out and say, “He’s verwy sad. Gimme a kiss to make it feew bedduh.”
[–]jftangpuz 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
On my first, I just asked if it would be okay. It went well.
[–]Sleight_Hotne 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I always do physical contact first. I grab her hand to direct her somewhere, "want to go to that store?" Slighly bumb into her while walking. Play with her finger, "your bands are so tiny" I use this to grab her hand little by little. Then, while still holding hands I wrap my arm around her waist, and rest my head on her. Finally I just keep looking at her while leaning closer, slightly kissing her face until we finally kiss.
If it goes bad at any point either retreat and regroup, or if it goes too bad "Thank you, next." Until now that has worked for me.
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