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[–]5_7pickup 28 points29 points30 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Cold approach is just a social skill at the end of the day. You dont need to be brad pitt or 6 feet tall to so it.
I find success with it as a 5 7 asian.
[–]e3cdspce 6 points7 points8 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
that's so encouraging to hear. I just started cold approaching and I'm also 5 7 Asian. any tips?
[–]5_7pickup 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Read my field reports. Thats a good start.
[–]Possibility-Puzzled 15 points16 points17 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Just do it. When I did for the first time, I was literally trembling. But contrary to what I thought, the girl I approached blushed like anything. You are not doing something odd or awkward, you are making her day.
If you know what you’re doing is not wrong, anxiety gets out of the way
[–]Calamity__Bane 8 points9 points10 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Fuck anyone who told you this:
I got told this method is not for newbies but for very attractive or skilled/charismatic people
The fastest way to build the charisma you want is to go out and approach.
Another question that I got, can cold approaching(day game) lead to meaningful relationship rather than just ons?
Yes, definitely.
How likely it is to find an SO that way vs meeting one through traditional means: work, friends, hobby?
The difference comes down to inertia - with the other routes, you have existing factors pushing you two together, while with a cold approach, your level of involvement really comes down to how far you both want to go and much effort you both want to put into the relationship.
[–]OThinkingDungeons 5 points6 points7 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I'm going to point out, ALL Interactions from a cold approach are meaningful.
If you DON'T approach, you get NOTHING
If you DO approach and fail, you've LEARNT SOMETHING.
If you DO approach and succeed, you've gained a hell of a lot!
[–]Melinored 3 points4 points5 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Go to some few public locations like libraries or a cafeteria. Join some kind of personality development club or maybe dramatics. Try approaching girls there.
[–]MILF_Sniper 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Cold approaching is definitely not just for attractive people. It’s something everyone should do, but these days with tinder and social media a lot of guys lack the skills and confidence to, so if you are making cold approaches it can go a long way with girls. You can’t take the results too personally though. If it goes well, great, if not, learn from it and move on.
Also day time approaches can be really effective, because girls mostly get approached at night at bars and clubs. So day approaches make you stand out. But the approaches to take during day vs night are much different.
[–]sarge_slayer 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Can confirm that it's possible. I'm 23, Asian and 5'9" and have had 3 girlfriends from daygame, one of which is my current gf and the hottest I've ever dated. Daygame is hands down the best way to meet women, but it isn't for the faint of heart and not everyone can do it and find success before giving up.
[–]AnotherKiwiBloke 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
So, just go up to them girls you think are cute and introduce yourself?
[–]sarge_slayer 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Yes and do it a lot
[–]Milinda99 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Hey man I feel you cuz I’m 22M in the same situation. I’d say just go for it cuz trying is better than doing doing nothing about it and just thinking about your situation because it just eats you up. Also you could alternatively ask your friends or their SOs to introduce you to a girl :)
[–]Upstairs-Bat-1315 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Hey bro, I made a video on this post to answer your question
https://youtu.be/N54-hYKJvsU
Let me know if this helps, good luck!
[–]ItsMango 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Wow! I really do appreciate the effort! I know you said to ask if I got more questions, but you answered all of them allready, including the one that got me thinking the most. Thank You (and to everyone in this thread) for giving me that much needed push!
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