I use to be around 80kg at 6'3/191cm, I always had short hair fades and a nicely trimmed beard and I had pretty good style. I would have generally considered myself fairly attractive, maybe a 7/8 and if I looks maxxed I could probably be a 9. I have naturally broad shoulders and pretty nice eyes and a pretty good face and beard. In the last 2 years I've gone up to 113kg.

When I was skinnier I use to be way more shy and struggle with talking to beautiful women quite a bit, but I was good looking enough where it sorta didn't matter, me and my friends went club/bar every weekend and when going clubs and taking drugs I'd go up to tons of girls and get tons of makeouts with 7s and 8s and sometimes I'd even have girls approach me, usually when I was working at nightclubs as security I'd have some drunk girls approach me quite often depending on how trashy the place was. I remember one time I had an actual 9/10 woman approach me, I was just sitting there at the club and she walked up to me, sat on my lap and we madeout for 10 mins. I walked away from her for a bit and then she was already talking to some other guy. At school there were a few girls that liked me, it helps that im so tall and in most shoes im even 6'4 or a bit more.

Now that im fat, that never happens. I find that in general women tend to be a bit ruder/passive in day to day life and not as friendly. I've gained way more confidence with things like cold approaches but I find im getting ghosted or left on read nearly every single time now, even from very average girls who I think I did well with. The only girls I feel like I can get now are just other fat girls who only want long term relationships, I can't even really get casual sex much anymore. On tinder I only match with women im not interested in and when I do match with a decent looking girl I find she is way more conservative with her dating and wants a long term relationship. Before on tinder I could pretty much get sex whenever I wanted from below average girls, wasn't good looking enough to slay with generally hot chicks regularly but id get a lot of overweight feminist and somewhat trashy chicks and would also get a generally pretty girl a fair bit here and there.

I feel like I'm a lot more intimidating looking now, I have a shaved head or fade usually and a short nicely trimmed beard and people always now assume im middle eastern, it doesn't help that I tend to tan very easily and spend a lot of time in the sun with my current job. whereas when I was skinny I mainly got people asking me if I was Italian or Slavic. My background is Slavic.

But moral of the story is I need to get my fat ass back into shape. Ive only met one girl who I actually like whilst being fat and I find dating in general way more hard and way less fun. The only positive is I find men somewhat respect me more now, I have decently big arms, chest, I have really good trap and shoulder genetics so I am quite tough looking and my fat is somewhat well proportioned, so I don't really have a huge gut, it's throughout my whole body and if I dress well in black I don't look like im that heavy, people tend to think im only 100kg or less. Main issue is lots of the fat is in my face so I've lost a lot of my jaw and cheekbones.

I'm sure we all have our own experiences and maybe some of my game was a lot weaker, but being fat just ain't great at all for dating at all.