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backintoit21 · 2021-12-29T21:04:46+00:00

Let it die and pop in once next week to confirm still on the night before

HappinesSource · 2021-12-29T22:23:51+00:00

Don't text her happy new year ffs. On that day your phone should be so cramped up with conversations of close people (closer than a random match) that it shouldn't cross your mind to text her like that.

It's not about being a dick, ofc you can wish her a happy year whenever it comes up casually. However the way I see it "remembering about her" gives off needy vibes.

glitchb4by · 2021-12-29T23:32:44+00:00

as a girl don’t let it die but don’t keep it 24/7 and boring.

I would like a text everyday and a convo about something funny, ease up before the date get a little personal.

But don’t text all the time and feel clingy

Canadian-Seductioner · 2021-12-29T21:30:11+00:00

Do not let it die. Continue the conversation or else she will forget about you and flake/ghost.

JAE_7502 · 2021-12-30T03:47:31+00:00

I am in this same situation. My date is next Wednesday. My plan is to text on Sunday asking how her NYE went since we talked about what we are each doing already. Then I’ll text Wednesday to just say I’m looking forward to meeting her. We haven’t met yet so I’m not getting roped into long text conversations prior to meeting.

eyesopen1111 · 2021-12-30T04:42:18+00:00

OP, why are you scheduling your dates so far out???

WolfKina · 2021-12-30T05:10:47+00:00

I think it's good to have a conversation for getting to know her better before the date, to flirt and create confort with her. In my experience, girls will have more disposition to the date (and not flake) if you take the time to create a connection.

Good luck!

VibrantHades · 2021-12-30T05:37:21+00:00

I have felt this tension too many times this year, before I finally found a relationship that feels promising (started dating at the end of July, so going on 5 months, after 7-8 dates with others between Feb to Jun).

The texting aspect of the dating game is annoying and draining for sure. The honest truth is, if the vibe is right, you really won’t have to second guess yourself. No matter how much you may like a person or want it to work out, if you’re tryna win the game playing with basic rules, she’s gonna get bored and leave.

You have to differentiate yourself to stick around. Feel confident to break a couple social rules and always approach with the mindset that you really NEED her, but you want her.

I’d really want you to emphasize discussions that are unique to the bond that y’all have. Like about High school, things in college, of what you already talked about. You’ll also want to have deeper discussions earlier on, because people aren’t down to waste their time and energy on wasting around.

Before the first date, I think it’s pretty dope if you could get a call/facetime with her. If you guys are texting a good amount, just be like “hey do you wanna just call, I don’t want to just text” or something that shows good initiative. The type of girl who are probably looking for (ready for a serious relationship) will appreciate that and respond comfortably.

Though I did mention finding common ground with past topics, I’d want you to transition towards future goals and plans. Seeing where she’s headed in life and if y’all are on a similar timetable. Maybe not full force with kids and stuff, but if it naturally comes up, it’s fine. Though to be fair, my girlfriend and I are pretty future oriented people while simultaneously finding each other joyful in the short term.

If you’re encouraging, funny, and overall a bright spot of her day, you’ll have a really great luck on that first date. Once you get to that point, and if y’all vibed hella up to then, a romantic gesture would be allowed. Like a single rose (not a bouquet) and a kiss at the end.

So essentially 1. Use this extra time wisely, don’t make it feel like you are yearning for her, but use it to set yourself up for a better first date. Don’t limit yourself to saying “this has to wait after the first date. Ideally initiate a call sometime soon to make her feel more emotionally connected and build up comfortably/interest before the date.

Stand out from the rest with your discussions. Use the knowledge of your shared experiences and basic social media skills (who she follows, what she shares) to learn about her priorities and subtly steer the conversation into that. Also make things funny and unique with talking about hypotheticals that involve her going over her thinking process and explaining things about herself. Like asking if she’d want to fight her favorite tv show character or date one of the avengers. Or the Animal/Color/Water quiz (google it if needed) that goes over her basic personality and interests.
Get to the deeper stuff in a quick but natural way. Talk about life plans, love languages, and schedules to see if there is a path for a shared future. There might not be, and that’s ok. There also might need to be some topics you’ll have to get used to and compromise on. Those serious conversations can show maturity and she’ll respect you more with your wholesome direct communication.

But to close, don’t get caught up in doing things right or wrong. If the vibe is right, she’ll ignore smaller mistakes or forgive you for it.

Best of luck man.

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