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Daunt02 · 2021-12-17T06:15:08+00:00

Yea she's trying to make you an orbiter. I'd be cordial but give up any idea of you guys being together. Wait a few months and she becomes a fling again. That's the best scenario.

ArtistVast · 2021-12-17T09:10:51+00:00

Man bro u ain’t alone. I had the same experience with one of my exs. Same exact reason and convo.

IamRocksteady · 2021-12-17T12:42:29+00:00

I would suggest you to start learning about attachment styles. This is something that the seduction community completely overlooks, even though it's paramount to learn it in my opinion. It will open your eyes.

One_Neferi3718 · 2021-12-17T12:59:38+00:00

I experienced this twice. The first time it happened to me, I made a promise to myself to never open up again, never show/tell her about my horrors and fears. Worked on myself for 2 years to then meet this new amazing girl. Shy cute and love me to death. She didn't have much experience in relationships before me, so I was her first in everything I felt like a god to her. She kept asking me to open up and I kept changing the subject. Till one day I was having a bad day at work and when I came home, there she was, sitting beautifully on our favourite couch we both bought from IKEA, happy to see me with both of her arms wide open for a hug. I was feeling low and I knew if I went for that hug I might crash, but oh god I needed that hug. We hugged and talked and then we talked more, we had an amazing sex and I slept like baby. I woke up the next morning with a big smile on my face that lasted only for a min max. Something was different, usually her arms and legs are wrapped around me, but not this time. Didn't think much of it, but I could sense that she lost respect for me, I am no longer this man who is as solid as a rock, unshakable like a mountain. So, I started to test the water to check If she still loves me, and that was the beginning of losing it all a week after to have the same discussion you had with you girlfriend.

The thing is, sooner or later we will break down and we will share some of our insecurities. They will keep asking and trying to solve this mystery you've had created. My first relationship lasted 2 years where the second one lasted a year and half.

I admit that me panicking and trying to find out if she still loves me made her lose attraction even more, but I didn't like it, I didn't like how she stopped looking at me the same way. I was no longer the apple of her eyes, just another person that she's with.

I am not sure where I am going with this nor do I have an advice to give. I am just a dude who needed to share something I can't share with anyone in real life, so here I am ranting anonymously.

Sultmaker_9000 · 2021-12-17T06:35:23+00:00

You should never have gone down the 'keep trying line' in the first instance, since you showed your real hand, had you gone down the cold blooded line that you always thought it was better for a break at least and see where you are in 3 months, but with the obvious language you have no intention of doing so, would have been much stronger. Full cold blooded all the way. Never get into any discussions about the relationship, that's women's talk, you just nod now and again and ask only the occasional unreactive unemotional question for her emotional whims.

sendindaninja · 2021-12-17T15:20:17+00:00

I really don't think it has to do with the self deprecating explanation you've given yourself...I do believe in the newly wed phase, but a relationship takes work...it takes two people...to want to contribute to something rather than just say...you weren't who I met before...

People change...with experience...and time...give yourself more credit fam....

ProfessorZoom80 · 2021-12-17T11:45:44+00:00

So what, women always leave. Forget her, ghost and fuck other girls

iiexistenzeii · 2021-12-17T11:43:07+00:00

Was literally in the same scenarios as you. Difference being I wasn't emotionally strong/mature like you and gave in. Worst time of my life.

skatinislife446 · 2021-12-17T12:24:35+00:00

What do you mean got comfortable? Like, you stopped taking her on dates, stopped working out, lost ambition, etc? Or do you mean emotionally?

ProfundaBrachii · 2021-12-17T17:56:47+00:00

Honestly you don’t want someone that doesn’t want you either. Move on bro, a few months after no contact you will feel much better about yourself and work on yourself mentally and physically so you become the best version of yourself!

brabus4 · 2021-12-17T12:51:13+00:00

Go no contact and she will be back soon Just say sorry I am only interested in romantic relationship with you. If you don't want to let me know if you change your mind

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