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SgtMaj_puzzles · 2021-12-13T21:10:49+00:00

So at least with male friends, men tend to bond over specific activities so that’s where you have to start.

Every one of my close friends came from sports growing up, the military, the fire service, hunting, etc.

Find a hobby if you don’t already have one…specifically ones that require another person.

SituationSouth368 · 2021-12-13T20:08:28+00:00

Bro go to social advice social skills . This wouldn’t be a good place to ask. The only thing I can tell you is hang around people that want you as much you them . If your putting a lot more effort in friendship than someone their not worth your time. So find people similar to you and you should be good

Memin93 · 2021-12-13T20:26:39+00:00

Probably when you interact with people your focus is on you instead of them. Even in this post, I can see your cravings for validation and for proving to be a great deal.

Human beings are naturally egoists and they care only about themselves but you can use that self-awareness to your own benefit. If you want to learn how I highly recommend you the book: How to Win Friends and Influence People By Dale Carnegie.

Good luck.

xSathya · 2021-12-14T01:58:47+00:00

Probably because you’re “super nice”. People dont like super nice people. Just be true to yourself

Ryu_Saki · 2021-12-14T02:20:56+00:00

I have the same problem as you. Haven't really made a single friend since I was 8 years old and I'm 23 now.

This is not friend specific tho, it's has hard for me to approach women as it is approaching potential friends.

Accomplished-Lab5914 · 2021-12-13T21:36:15+00:00

How's romance with the women going?

ORIONFULL23 · 2021-12-13T22:08:50+00:00

Read, 'how to win friends and influence people'

Deblobo · 2021-12-14T03:16:36+00:00

I've met a lot of my friends at work. I guess depending on what you do thats a good place to start.

Ritalin_Lol · 2021-12-14T04:50:16+00:00

Do you smoke weed? Had the same issue for the longest time. Nothing helped bond randoms into new friendships than smoking together. Would go to random get togethers or parties and it would help break the ice. Not my ideal interest or peak topic. It helped get the ball rolling for me, taught me a lot, both about establishing friendships and bad apples.

2021-12-14T05:28:24+00:00

Dude, word for word you have explained my (M41) exact story. Over my whole life I’ve questioned the same things you do and am yet to come across any substantive answers. What I can offer you though is three things; Firstly, dwelling on the issue only makes it worse. When I’ve previously made my problems attracting others a big deal to myself it has repelled others more.
Secondly, use your energy to find a life partner who easily attracts others on a more permanent basis. They’ll balance you out and you can enjoy the results of this aspect of their being. Thirdly, read Dale Carnegie’s How to win friends and influence people. This had some results for me and I marvelled at how those who could attract people permanently all shared the same traits raised in the book. Otherwise, I’m very interested in the other replies to your post and thank you for sharing honestly.

Edit. I read replies again and see the book has already been suggested. Get into it.

stanthemilkman88 · 2021-12-14T12:35:38+00:00

You're a nice guy. READ No More Mr Nice Guy to realized how fked up you probably are. I mean I'm pretty fked but still ha e plenty of mates.

Feeling_Ask5498 · 2021-12-14T12:50:45+00:00

I also had no friends. I was lonely in my room. But sometimes it is like that. I learned how to talk with people with books and practiced it by talking to strangers. And some strangers become my friends.

I still never had a gf so ur life is better then mine. Its bullshit that people dont be friends with u if u have no friends. Its about connecting with others

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