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[–]letmereaddamnit 19 points20 points21 points 4 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
Don't mention the virign bit. It's weird and it'll put off.
Why is it weird? I don't know but women seem to think it is so don't mention it.
[–][deleted] 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Oh I don't plan to. Trust me. I definitley already know that
[–]DjArie 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
The reason is exactly the opposite of why pre-selection works.
[–][deleted] -1 points0 points1 point 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
You're absolutely right, and that's why I feel like I fucked up my life. I've had insanely hot girls throw themselves at me and I was like "meh" now it's way too late. Don't be like me
[–]Intelligent-Meet2417 6 points7 points8 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Never mention you're a virgin unless they ask you about your sexual past.Try to keep your little secret until you slept with someone.
Yup I'm aware of this. Will do.
[–]5_7pickup 17 points18 points19 points 4 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link
If they approach you and dance with you then dance for like 5-10 minutes. Introduce yourself while dancing. Tell her let's go explore the club more or let's go somewhere less loud to talk. Talk, flirt, seed the pull. Tell her let's go grab drinks outside of the club (aka your place).
Refer to my field reports. I do solo nightclub game. Well not solo anymore since I found good wings.
[–][deleted] 9 points10 points11 points 4 years ago* (4 children) | Copy Link
Thanks!! This is the kind of stuff I was looking for
Really simple yet practical advice
What does seed the pull mean?
[–]5_7pickup 8 points9 points10 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
"Oh I know this great place for drinks/tacos/wings. We can go check it out later but I gotta make sure you're not going to kidnap me first"
This line seeds the pull and disqualifies her.
[–][deleted] 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Sounds more like you're asking her out on a date, is that really something to say at a nightclub at 1am?
[–]5_7pickup 7 points8 points9 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Absolutely. What do people want to do after clubbing? It's to keep partying (drinks) or go home and eat (food).
You're missing the point overall though. The point of that line isn't to actually get drinks or food with her. The point is to have her exit the venue with you. You have 0% chance of fucking her in the club. You need to move her from the club to another location either your house or a bar/restaurant closer to your house.
Also, this line gives the girl plausible deniability. If you say "Hey let's go to my place" then she's going to feel slutty and less likely to go with you. Keep it vague. If she ask exactly where youre taking her, then of course don't lie. Just say "we're going to my place, there's drinks and food there."
[–]MessagesAlwaysOpen 3 points4 points5 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
“Ayy girl, wanna help me lose my Mormonity?”
[–]vanillapopsicle 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (14 children) | Copy Link
It’s not complex dude. Being a virgin is irrelevant. Meet a girl, make her feel nice, dance, have fun, gauge her mood, invite her to your place. Bang. It’s that easy. You’re overthinking it. Sounds like you’re already attractive. Just give them a fun night and they’ll smash.
[–][deleted] 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Got it, I think I do sometimes overthink it just because it's a new experience. But ya I hear ya
[–]vanillapopsicle 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
All virgins do this. It’s irrelevant. All virgins think the girl can tell. She won’t, unless you’re super awkward about it. After the first, you won’t even think about it anymore. It’s super easy - show them a nice time, make sure they’re having fun, and when the time is right, invite them to chill some more. Some will, some won’t, but it’s not complex.
[–]localmortyposter 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (11 children) | Copy Link
I'm not attractive. Life sucks.
[–]vanillapopsicle 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (10 children) | Copy Link
You have to go to a less materialistic culture then and one where they value personality more.
[–]localmortyposter -1 points0 points1 point 4 years ago (9 children) | Copy Link
I live in the USA. Looks matter.
[–]vanillapopsicle 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (8 children) | Copy Link
I know. I’m saying leave western materialistic cultures. That’s the only solution if you’re average looking.
[–]localmortyposter -1 points0 points1 point 4 years ago (7 children) | Copy Link
Should I betabuxmaxx?
[–]vanillapopsicle 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (6 children) | Copy Link
No, there’s a lot of countries / cultures where personality / values matter more. They’re usually poorer countries, because poverty makes people humble. Yes, you may have to avoid some gold digging there, but it’s not everywhere.
[–]localmortyposter 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link
America is not one of them. I’m transferring to a four year college next year and I want to get laid there.
[–]vanillapopsicle 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
If it’s in America, good luck. All I can say is develop a musical career.
[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
Or just be uber confident and happy with you are, this attracts women regardless of looks imo. Just because I haven't had sex doesn't mean I don't have a lot of experience building attraction. I'm kinda confused about the musical career part too
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That's basically the plan, lol
[–]damiancontrol 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
because I don't have game though
For the life of me, I can't understand why some guys are like this... if you already know the cause of your problem, then maybe try addressing it???
LEARN GAME god damn.
I dont understand your comment. I said NOT because I don't have game. I was saying that's not the reason why it hasn't happened. I think you misunderstood what I wrote
[–]damiancontrol 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
virgin, the reason why isn't because I don't have game though. I was raised mormon, and up until age 22-23 hot girls CONSTANTLY threw themselves at me. Not kidding. Told me they wanted to date me, told me they liked me, would give me thei
Oh shit I'm sorry about that lol
But actually after rereading your post, I would still standby to what I said. It seems you really need to learn game because your problem is flirting and escalation
[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago* (1 child) | Copy Link
When I was younger I didn't give a shit if people liked me or not, I was surrounded by beautiful women and because I didn't care if they liked me I was able to be authentic, so they chased me. That's why it was so easy.
You're probably right. Still I don't know if it's too late or not. As hard as I try I really struggle forgiving myself for my past. And the fact that women have made fun of me before over this only makes it harder, and that even my family even seems to look down on me. I might just be done.
Flirting/escalation I've tried studying and idk, I feel like I've tried literally everything and nothing works. I've spent countless hours studying and listening to podcasts on this. I've asked out strangers on dates who I just met. I've tried to do everything to step outside my comfort zone. The girls who want me are always the ones I'm not attracted to. If I can't be with a girl I'm attracted to I don't see a point in dating. Also, seeing people way younger than me, like 17 years old who seem to have this shit figured out more than me makes me feel hopeless and so far behind and just super shitty.
[–]damiancontrol 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
let's back up a minute... what exactly happens when you're on a date and what are you struggling with.
[–]ArinaMae 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Hey OP! Just saying I was also raised mormon so I totally understand where you’re coming from!
[–][deleted] 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago* (0 children) | Copy Link
Doesn't matter. 99.99% of women can't and won't. I appreciate that though
[–]lil_investor8 -2 points-1 points0 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
This mught be horrible advice for you, but I would mention you're a virgin. Play it cool bro. Don't make it weird. Its so easy to tell when someone has been around and an when someone is inexperienced.
The worst thing you can do to yourself is to carry extra pressure when you're meeting girls.
Don't know if im gonna do this. I'm tired of being shamed for it. I know men can be shallow but women definitley can be too
[–]Fragrant-Cloud1056 -3 points-2 points-1 points 4 years ago (9 children) | Copy Link
Sounds like a disappointing night incoming for whoever decides to sleep with you
[–]DakiAge 5 points6 points7 points 4 years ago (7 children) | Copy Link
Come on, he is just an amateur.
[–]Fragrant-Cloud1056 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (6 children) | Copy Link
Exactly. Not mentioning you're a virgin just to get laid WILL lead to disappointing sex for the other party since you're still an amateur
[–]DakiAge 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
So what?
Sex isn't everything.
[–]Fragrant-Cloud1056 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Lmao then clearly he shouldn't be so bummed about not getting it? Why have sex in the first place then?
[–]DakiAge 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Absolutely.
[–][deleted] 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
I hope he would but it's still not easy to know how to go about these things when you've never done them before, which is why I think communication is key (and not telling someone you're a virgin and may not know how to go about things may not be very helpful)
[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
What's your solution then? What exactly are you proposing?
[–][deleted] 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago* (0 children) | Copy Link
I mean what else am I supposed to do?
Edit:
If I tell a girl, she'll most likely judge me and not want to have sex with me, if I don't, the sex will be bad maybe, but at least I can get experience. I've already lost the love of my life and wasted every opportunity I've had with so many hot girls. I don't see myself ever loving somebody the way I loved this girl I used to date, even though we never had sex. She's one of the only people who ever actually genuinely cared about me. Now she's gone forever. I don't really want to exist anymore. But I've decided I'm not going to commit suicide. So if I can't have love I might as well sleep around, beats being a virgin forever. Plus, I'm too old to still be a virgin. It's something nobody can accept/understand.
It's not like I have many options. I need experience to get laid and I need to get laid to get experience. It's like trying to get into an entry level job that requires experience. I'm just trying to get my foot in the door so I can build on that.
I've done online dating and gone on a few dates but haven't really hit it off with anyone. And when I have told girls or other guys about this I've been mocked and made fun of. Nobody can just accept me for who I am. Whenever I've told people they just judge me, even my own family. I didn't think it was a big deal until everybody else made it a big deal. Fuck everybody
Edit 2: I was in a pretty dark place when I wrote this comment. I am doing better now. But I still kind of stand by what I said. My options are:
Mention I'm a virgin and most likely be judged and not get laid.
Don't mention I'm a virgin and there's a possibility of getting laid, which will likely lead to getting laid more in the future.
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