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[–]Electric_kundalini 37 points38 points39 points 4 years ago (6 children) | Copy Link
You're thinking too deeply into it. When she asked where is her coffee you could have teased her.
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[–]Electric_kundalini 5 points6 points7 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
It's entirely up to you, it's not a deal breaker if you don't respond to her story. Maybe she's waiting until she feels better to make another date. If she wasn't interested she wouldn't have liked your message. She did respond to your message flirtatiously asking where her coffee is. So just take her lack of word response with a grain of salt.
[–]youcheekydelinquent 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Like, relax bro. Everyone on here texting back like they're negotiating an armistice
[–]Ho_KoganV1 -1 points0 points1 point 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
No you’re thinking about it too closely, if she really liked OP, she would have given him an other opportunity to talk
[–]techie_boy69 9 points10 points11 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Don’t overthink it and keep it lite, Probably just teasing you with the where’s my coffee comment. Liking your other comments is acknowledging them so sounds like it’s all good.
[–]TheWhiteWalkerSpeaks 4 points5 points6 points 4 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
Now that you have already asked her about her sickness and suggested coffee date this week, she had the chance to reply, she chose to just like. For now do not respond to her song recommendation or remind her about your date. If you text her another time about anything, it will just come across as very needy. Will ruin your chances.
My advise just leave some silence. Don't try start a conversation with her. If you are doing anything interesting and post it on your story, let that make her text you on Instagram. Then if she's responding to your messages and only then bring up the coffee date again.
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[–]themaub 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Hey! I used to reply super fast to guys and send new messages when they weren’t replying (and almost every time they just stopped talking to me, guess I was too needy) until one of my friends told me that I should take a bit of time to reply, not restart the conversation if they were not following up… I don’t think you necessarily have to talk to other girls but don’t act like you’re expecting something from her (even if you are) be chill and let her come to you! This doesn’t work for everybody but at least you’ll know if she really is interested in you ;).
[–]TheWhiteWalkerSpeaks 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Honestly you will have to move on and start talking to other girls. The more the number of girls you are talking to the less desperation you will feel to text the girl mentioned in this post. Keep more options. Girls can sense if a man has other girls in his life or is just very needy and desperate. The latter will kill any attraction established before.
Now that you have sent her song recommendation, do not text her atleast for 72 hrs unless she texts you asking something. Whatever next message that you do send her after 72 hrs shouldn't be related to coffee date. Only if she responds and you both have 6 back and forth texts then ask her out for coffee again. If she declines, unfollow and move on.
[–]Turbopre2 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link
It could be anything really. She might of been really sick and didn’t bother trying to continue the conversation. Just let her rest up and try again in a few days. If you are unsuccessful on the next attempt then just ignore her and on to the next one
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[–]Turbopre2 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
She probably went to bed right after messaging you so don’t stress too much about it king.
[–]Turbopre2 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Don’t go down that road bro. I know you like this girl but just play it cool and keep yourself busy.
[–]MrDownhillRacer[🍰] 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
She only liked your replies instead of responding to them because she couldn't think of anything to say. Doesn't mean she isn't interested, or else she wouldn't have reached out in the first place.
[–]Keezymac34 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Attention whore move on bro
[–]bbcSnowbunnyslayer 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
You're over analyzing this dude. She should be drinking tea
[–]topleveldating 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
yea she's just teasing/flirting with you. Guys we predominately use our logical mind to figure things out, women are emotional. Always ask yourself how is she tryna make me feel and vise versa.
[–]dreameater42 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
she's just after the coffee
[–]SyreksDungeon 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Maybe she got busy, and liked your messages, then forgot to reply back. What I would do, idk about yall, but what I have noticed works best is not planning shit. Invite her in a couple of days, but that same day. Dont plan shit, just ask her the same day. If she is interested, in the mood, and available, shell say yes. If you plan shit you will give her time to think about going out with you.
Basically like when you hit up a friend. "Hey bro im going to the club tonight, wanna come?". Its way better than being like "hey, lets go next Friday to the club."
[–]dobbs1997 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
the fact that you’re overthinking that so much just proves that you really gotta be talking to more women lol
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