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[–]KingoftheNorth412 4 points5 points6 points 4 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link
Therapy is what I would recommend. Seems you keep getting kicked out of things or end up in arguments. A therapist is a professional.
What did you do to get kicked out of the armed forces?
[–]tism_trooper 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I'd echo this. Very possible that there are underlying things that you need to address first. It'll likely help in all aspects of your life, to include interpersonal
[–]coveredbyHisblood777 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
I got kicked out because I was late to work, not getting along with people, being aggressive stuff like that. I was discharged with a General Under Honorable Conditions. Not dishonorable but I could’ve done better.
[–]KingoftheNorth412 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Get into therapy man. It’s super beneficial and it sounds like you need an outlet. I’ve been going for 2 years. Best decision ive made.
[–]coveredbyHisblood777 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
I was in rehab for 5 months, I should’ve brought up my concerns then but I didn’t. Now I have to come out of pocket, maybe I’ll try that when I get a little more money under my belt. Like I said financially I’m in a bind.
[–]Narcan9 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Success with women will come 100x easier after you fix the other problems in your life. Women really shouldn't be your focus right now. In fact they will cause more problems that will slow down your progress in other areas.
A weekly or 2x\month (minimum) therapy session should be your TOP goal. You need to be proactive here. Look for a therapist that does CBT or DBT.
Check with your county public health. See if there are any free or subsidized mental health services. Hell maybe even through a church. Tell your parents you want to do this and ask for their support. Would they be willing to pay for it? Half?
You need to tackle your poor social skills. Why do you have trouble getting along with people? Why do you keep burning bridges? Maybe give antidepressants a try. Do not go on ADHD meds.
You need a life plan. goals you can work towards. How will you improve your career and financial situation? Learn better discipline. Stop sabotaging.
Spend a year getting these things in order before you bother with women. Commit to it now.
[–]gbizzle2 -1 points0 points1 point 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Dont worry about women until you have a good income, your own place, and a happy life. It will be a million times easier to become the Chad you deserve to be
[–]coveredbyHisblood777 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Thanks for your suggestion I really appreciate it!
[–]TheSunshineMan 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
21 years is still super young..
You have two choices..
Keep doing what you've been doing and have very little or maybe no girls in your life.. for the rest of your life..
OR
Make a choice of .. I'm sick of this and I'm going to do whatever it takes to get my dating and love life 'handled' starting today.
[–]coveredbyHisblood777 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Yes but where do I go from here. I feel like all my chances on getting good with women have been wasted and now I’m in the abyss.
[–]TheSunshineMan 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
You're 21 and there's 4,000,000.000 (billion) women in the world..
There's an abundance of women out there waiting for you..
Fix your mindset.
Thank you I really appreciate your suggestion. I will tty to do that though it’s been hard recently. I feel like all my chances to get good with women have been thrown out the window. I’ll do my best to stay positive.
[–]donnybdonnyb 4 years ago [recovered] (3 children) | Copy Link
It sounds like you’re in the perfect position to really change your life. Embrace the anger, jealousy, frustration. It’s good you feel like you do because you can use that energy to change. Society often tells us just “be happy with yourself”, “don’t compare yourself” etc etc. So keep getting angry at your situation because when you get angry enough you’ll find a way to change. Step by step. It’s not going to happen overnight. But every man in this sub who’s mastered seduction has been feeling how you feel. It’s only up from here
[–]coveredbyHisblood777 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Thank you so much for your words of encouragement it really means a lot. God bless you brother. I’ll work hard at it every single day until I hit the grave 💯
[–]donnybdonnyb 4 years ago [recovered] (1 child) | Copy Link
For sure dude. Step by step, clean up your life, make a vision, make a decision to get it, plan, execute. That’s life
Will do thank you
[–]christopherames 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
What are your plans for getting a job that you can support yourself or save up money while living at your Dad’s?
I have a job but it doesn’t pay much but I can make it work. My goal is to move out by next year.
[–]christopherames 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
You said you have a minimum wage but you can support yourself on it? Are you sure about those numbers?
[–]shaggy2gay 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Eh, maybe you need therapy, but what you need more is to have sex with a human woman.
My recommendation for this is to go straight to the source, find the best information about meeting, attracting and fucking women that you can find. For my money (I have spent a ton of it in this area), you get this info from the top tier pickup artistry instructors.
There are men who have dedicated their entire adult lives to figuring out how to explain to you the mechanics of meeting and then fucking women you don't already know. This is what you need.
The two best in the world are guys named Todd V and James Marshall. Check out both of them on YouTube and see who you vibe with more. Then go start applying what they recommend. If you live in a big enough urban area, you should be able to begin getting results immediately. As in, you can go out tomorrow, talk to a bunch of women, and very possibly get their phone numbers / go on dates with them.
The best way to fix this problem is the hard way - cold approach. Do app dating on the side if you want, but understand that it's a rigged game at this point. They're built on algorithms designed to make you feel unfuckable, so you pay for premium services. Hard to get results, especially fast results. Not impossible, but very frustrating. Your time and energy are better spent cold approaching.
Sounds good thanks for the info!
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