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[–]TheSunshineMan 14 points15 points16 points 4 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
Stop being so selective, as it's only hurting your progress..
Talk to ugly girls, talk to fat girls, talk to girls your moms age, talk to girls your grandmas age, talk to guys..
Talk to anyone and everyone.
Now instead of cherry picking one girl a day, go talk to 10..
[–]HaymakerGirl2025 3 points4 points5 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
This. Best advice ever.
[–]letmereaddamnit 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
I have no problems talking to those people. It's not a challenge for me, I'm just nervous about talking with women I've never met that I have no association with. For example if we were in the same class or we worked together that would be no issue because we would be familiar with each other. I'm not in school and there are no women at my job so that leaves me with no options, hence getting used to talking to women I've never met.
[–]TheSunshineMan 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
0 approaches vs 10.
Which of the two do you think will help your game more?
Fine . . then just talk to women..
But 0 approaches, you're wasting your time.
[–]strugglingstudent00 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
sunshine man is right. Compare game to building a bigger chest in the gym. If you say "im only gonna bench to build my chest" you will take forever to improve or may never improve your chest. You gotta hit the chest with plenty of different angles and weights to see significant improvement. The same goes for approaches, approach anyone and everyone. This doesn't mean you are trying to fuck ladies your grandmas age, it just works your social muscle and gets you better at conversations. Part of game is directing a conversation in the way you want it so just practice doing that with different topics in your life with people and make sure the conversation feels natural and not like you are just terrible and transitions.
[–]jessiepc145 9 points10 points11 points 4 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
Yeah man, just go make some friends; women or men or moms 🤣. If you’re going out there with the mindset “I’m going to talk to a new girl I find attractive every month in order to get laid” you’re not going to accomplish anything. It’s very telling when a man is on that mindset. Just go and do and experience and learn. It’s a skill, sharpen it.
[–]letmereaddamnit 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
No the goal isn't to get laid. The goal is to be comfortable going up to an attractive stranger and starting a conversation. I have no problem talking to guys or old people or just women at random that I'm not attracted to.
[–]jessiepc145 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
“I’ve gone to five different places…haven’t seen a girl I find attractive..” why not just go out for yourself? Wether or not your intention is to get laid, if you’re going out there with the mindset that you’re looking for women, you’re gonna fail.
This what the subs tryna show you fellas. Build a life where you’re not going out solely to find people to talk to. Pick up a hobby because you’re genuinely interested in it and I promise you you’ll start finding what you want, if not better.
[–]letmereaddamnit 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
I go out for myself all the time. The hobby thing is a struggle. I woke up one morning and nothing was interesting to me anymore.
[–]jessiepc145 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Well time to do some soul searching. Get off your phone, dopamine detox, get tf out there and stop whining. You want attractive women to join your life? Go out there and build a damn life then. Feeling sorry for yourself and using the excuse that nothing interests you is simply an excuse.
It’s really not hard. Work on yourself.
[–]mookie1955 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Practice makes perfect
[–]ikeepon 3 points4 points5 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
This is a good goal but you don’t need to follow it exactly. It puts undue pressure on you. I find it easier to approach in social settings, for example, but I’m not always in a social setting. Maybe lower the goal: approach a girl (attractive or not) when/if the opportunity presents itself (meaning if you happen to be around a girl wherever you happen to be, then approach. But don’t be hunting for girls to approach. Lol)
[–]letmereaddamnit -1 points0 points1 point 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Yeah that's a good point
[–]RealHumanBeing2020 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Where are you going. Coffee shops? Shopping centers? Grocery stores? Bookstores?
[–]letmereaddamnit 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Yeah pretty much. I don't really frink coffee. Today I went to a Japanese garden and then a botanical garden nearby. Then I went to the mall because the first two places were nearly completely empty.
[–]jimmy2179428 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
It should be easier to approach girls you are not attractive to. You just need the practice right now and get into the habit. Once you do find a girl that you are attracted you then you should be talking to her just like the ones you are unattractive to. Good luck.
[–]BetaCuckSimp 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
If she was naked on your bed, would you do it? Yes? Then approach
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