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bigsharkswipe · 2021-09-16T06:15:46+00:00

I'm doing very well for my age (21) and I'll try to help you best I can. First start with the basics. Hygiene 100% on point. Shower every night and brush your teeth, waterpik. Use face wash and do skincare (cerave stuff is good). Once that's out the way definitely get in the gym and start slow, do some compound exercises (push, pull). Get some style. Find a celebrity that looks like you or has a similar personality and copy their style. I look like g eazy so I dress like him in greaser uniform. Save your money and invest it, put it in a high yield account such as blockfi. When you start to focus on leveling up its much different and ladies just come naturally once they sense the inner confidence and see you have money, status and looks. Once you stack a bit of money get a nice used whip such as a 3 series all they care about is the badge bro they don't know what's under the hood lmao

Hooosreddit · 2021-09-16T00:58:49+00:00

If you can't see it it's probably not happening anytime soon without luck.

However that's true for any big goal or thing.

You want to learn the piano and aren't just nimble enough to play the bumblebee? Yeah guess what. Practice makes perfect.

You want to be a good chef and can't make the perfect tender loin the first time around. Yes that happens.

Seducing women and attracting them is a skill. And like any complex skill it also involves attitudes and thought patterns.

I give you an example. You are not satisfied with your attractiveness (you can do something about that btw) and not confident in yourself and what a women would even want from you and then you go to speak to women with the whole outlook of getting them to be your girlfriend or into bed. And that feels shitty to you and weird. And that's because it IS shitty and weird.

However if you were reasonably confident that you aren't a bad person, that there are many guys who are violent or abusive or mean out there, and the woman in question could definitely make worse decisions than being with you. That's a place to start from. And then if you are interested in them as a person and what they want and are looking for, without being so needy, just genuinely enjoying her presence and making her enjoy spending time with you then that's a different story.

But this is still the Big picture. Make small steps.

Inform yourself. Is suggest googling "inner game". I'd also suggest reading "the game" by Neal Strauss.

Tl/Dr: take smaller steps continuously to reach your destination. Rather take a step back and enjoy the scenery than jump sprint all the way.

AelfredRex · 2021-09-16T00:56:57+00:00

Too late? You're 22, not 95.

fenchai · 2021-09-16T04:56:43+00:00

you are still quite young, I used to think like you.

Workout, get fit, boosts your confidence, makes you feel good. (do it for your body and mind)
Learn how to dress yourself well.
Smile, talk about whatever sht is on your mind, practice talking to cashiers, whoever is not with an angry face.

tnpersona · 2021-09-17T00:50:25+00:00

The optimal word here is “feel”. You don’t feel attractive. You feel it’s too late. Well I can guarantee you it’s not too late and would bet money that you’re above average at least in terms of your physical appearance.

What you need is to develop some confidence. There’s many ways to do it. My way was through style and fragrances. I went from feeling like a total dud, probably like you feel now, to the fucking man. I’m not even exaggerating.

Trust me, girls don’t matter much in the grand scheme of things. Dating and hooking-up are overrated. Just work on yourself bro and I promise that you’ll get all the girls and sex when the time is right. Keep the faith man. I know you got this 😏

justaboywithquestion · 2021-09-16T00:16:16+00:00

Dude we’re in the best years of our lives. It is not too late. You need to man up and grow some balls. Push yourself out of your comfort zone. Fake it till you make it. Start working out and building your confidence. Do your own research on how to talk to women. I recommend watching “fresh and fit” podcast on YouTube.

KingoftheNorth412 · 2021-09-16T00:41:43+00:00

Try hooking up with a less attractive female. Get your v card outta the way and your confidence will go up.

OutrageousRecord4944 · 2021-09-16T01:03:01+00:00

First thing first is your mindset. You have to have a mindset of success and abundance. I’d suggest working on yourself first. Start eating Clean, enroll in the gym or martial arts, read books, etc. Become someone.

Next step is begin to learn the dating game out here. I suggest looking at content creators on youtube on the dating niche such as Playing With Fire or mynonlearherlife on Youtube. Read books on psychology, body language, dating, pick up artistry. Go out there and try things out. Be confident, comfortable, relaxed and most importantly dominant. Not im a toxic mascimity way but learn to speak up, be honest.

Nofapdeity · 2021-09-16T05:41:48+00:00

It’s hard work doing this seduction stuff at college I feel that like the other day I missed a couple of easy approaches. I also understand why it feels fake. You really have to put on that persona and get the number.

Ive realized that it won’t be easy and if I want it it’s gonna be a lot of no’s before I get a yes

Any-Contribution2180 · 2021-09-16T17:42:58+00:00

I think OP just realized that the only way to get most girls attention is to not be himself, but who they want him to be, and on its face, it seems un-orgabic and his pride is def in the way to stay true to himself. OP be yourself when youre around the girl u like, be yourself. Thats the ONLY way to find true love.

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