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diceykoala · 2021-09-03T20:03:28+00:00

That's ok dude. The amount of fear you have, the girl has also! Yup shes nervous and her belly has butterflies and everything too.

I have even gone to the bathroom and thought to myself no way she wants to make out. Wait a minute, shes in my house on my couch watching a movie. If she doesnt want to make out, she would never ever put herself in that position. You dont stand under a shower and wonder why water is coming out. Shes there for a reason! She is waiting for me on my couch right now! Boom I wash my hands (because they do listen for this), walk out smile at her, touch her face and kiss her.

You miss every shot you dont take. They have even later said why did it take so long. Stupid me. All along I was the one panicking on the inside. Dont be like me.

strikerx07 · 2021-09-03T20:51:53+00:00

I un-ironically found the movie Hitch helpful when closing the distance for a kiss.

On to the kissing itself, just kiss her lips (no tongue for now, plain simple duck face kiss). Aim for her lower lip, kiss it maybe rub it sideways and/or very gently suck it a little.

Start very slowly, it is very likely if this is your first (or her) kiss that your teeth will collide, try to avoid that but don't panic if it happens (that's why being slow Is key) and use your hands to hold her head and embrace her.

cumlaude123 · 2021-09-03T21:25:43+00:00

This might get blasted here but oh well. If you want to practice kissing and can’t find a willing partner, there is another way. Go to a strip club, take a girl in the VIP, and ask her how much she would charge to make out with you. My buddy runs a strip club and he told me that on average it’s like an extra bucks. Now this is where all the guys on here with blast the idea of kissing a stripper and how gross that is, but whatever. Next, sugar daddy sites. Same thing, open up a profile, start talking to some girls, and ask them what they would want in exchange for a few makeout sessions. This is all probably bad advice, but if you’re desperate and you really want to figure it out, it’s one option. Flame away boys.

Training_Passenger79 · 2021-09-05T02:19:10+00:00

Don’t kiss her face then. Honestly it’s way hotter if guys kiss alternative areas. I also like it if they let touch do the talking.

Best thing to start with though is prolonged eye contact. If she doesn’t break eye contact its basically a pretty sure go ahead for you.

You can:

Kiss the palm of her hand instead
Tuck her hair behind her ear or play with the ends of her hair
Scoot closer to her
Put your arm on the back of the couch
Kiss her shoulder, jawline, neck, or ear lobe
Whisper in her ear

If she seems really into it go for a hand on the knee and make little circles with your thumb.

Honestly, lip kissing is something the sexually skilled men escalate to. They know that it’s the little, tiny gestures that build up that really get women frisky. Because women need more time than men to get to the same point, and if you want to have really amazing sex, you want her to be just as hot for you as you are for her. That’s where both partners feel really satisfied and fulfilled afterwards. Guys that move too fast make women worry after the fact.

Also, I never minded nervousness. Just putting that out there. In a weird way, it can be stimulating, because I feel like we’re almost doing something taboo…it’s like you’re normally a non-sexual person but you’re breaking the script because you’re so attracted to me.

Shy guys can be SUPER hot.

Also shy guys seem to actually pay attention to the way women react and they don’t move too fast or too aggressively.

So don’t feel shame for being shy. I bet you’re super sexy and you don’t even see it in yourself.

letsgetrandy · 2021-09-04T00:52:10+00:00

There are several kinds of kiss, and different ways to do each one.

First, there's the "things are going well, let's see if she feels the same" kiss. For this one, you do like they describe in the movie Hitch: lean in about 90% of the way, and if she feels the same she will make up the last 10%. This is a sweet kiss, so you should have light lip contact, and the best strategy is to just mimic what she does.

Next, there's the "hair test" kiss. If things seem to be going well, but you're not sure if a kiss is the right move at this moment, you reach for the side of her face in a way that could be to hold her for a kiss, but in such a way that if she flinches or backs away you can say "relax, you had something in your hair," and go back to conversation.

Then, you have the "let's take a chance and find out" kiss. This is best done by catching her by surprise. You might bend down to tie your shoes and then as you come up you just kiss her. This should be a very brief kiss, light, on the lips.

One of my favorites is the "I can tell by her actions that she's into me" kiss -- or, the confident kiss. You know you're attractive, you can see that she's having a great time, and you want to move things along... so you lean in just a little, put a twinkle in your eye, and say "hey, I want to tell you a secret." Then, you lean in further and whisper in her ear "get ready, I'm going to kiss you now." This can be a bit more passionate of a kiss, but you should definitely mimic her energy... don't be overly aggressive.

And finally, there's the "pent up energy, holy shit, let's fuck!" kiss, which can happen with no warning, and can be as deep and passionate as the shared energy allows. This is when clothes get ripped and things in the room get broken and nobody cares.

AVGVSTVS_OPTIMVS · 2021-09-03T23:07:31+00:00

If you really want to catch her interest, don't wait for her explicit cue. If by the end of the date, she's holding conversation with you, laughing at your shitty jokes and not running for the hills, go for the kiss.

That radiates masculine energy. She will love it. Just don't go for the tongue right away.

UanD · 2021-09-04T02:28:05+00:00

If you are asking for the actual mechanics on how to be good kisser, there really aren’t any. Different girls like different things. Some like hard bites on the lips while others will complain, some like a lot of tongue while others like a little. General rule however is not to be sloppy or bump teeth.

Necessary_Use660 · 2021-09-03T20:22:36+00:00

Just don’t smash into her face or not move. That’s is probably the most awkward possible response. Kissing itself is fairly easy to pick up or at least at a basic level. Plus you can always slide in a line about well maybe we should practice more 😏

If anything focus more on trying to work through your anxiety about things becoming more than friendship.

clearing · 2021-09-04T05:43:57+00:00

You’re overthinking the how. It’s more important to judge when, and that can only be decided in the moment. Sometimes you have to go beyond language and be a little bold. If you judged wrong, you’ll know right away by the response, and at least you’ll learn something. But you’ll find out how to not be wrong. Also, it’s not like the other person knows the exact right moment.

Little_wait-2 · 2021-09-04T14:19:09+00:00

First start really smoothly/ only with lips, try to focus on the feling of her lips on yours.
Then only if she is more "into it" put a little bit of tongue/ in the way you just want to taste her and play with her/ kissing it's not a performance it's just a very emotionnal game.
Avoid heavy tongue/ only before or during sex.

MrMacDoctor · 2021-09-04T06:04:39+00:00

Dawg just do what you want to do. If you want to kiss with your tongue in her eye, FUCK IT. Its your choice dawg. Be confident! U got this! Hell yea my mans gonna wreck it like Ralph.

David-Eight · 2021-09-03T19:59:31+00:00

Buddy, it sounds like you got more problems than just kissing.

Appropriate_Ad3327 · 2021-09-04T00:10:24+00:00

How tall are you?

PaqS18 · 2021-09-03T22:59:20+00:00

Just go for the kiss. Move towards her head and put your lips on her lips

AVGVSTVS_OPTIMVS · 2021-09-03T23:13:56+00:00

You gotta fight through it. It's intimidating but you won't learn unless you conquer your fears. You're never EVER going to get a girl unless you do this. That's just the truth.

I can't tell you how to kiss. Just go for a soft pucker. Say "owl" whole you keep your mouth closed. Slowly.

agpc · 2021-09-04T06:14:29+00:00

Lean in and if she leans in too, kiss her lips lightly while gently grasping the back of her head with your hand. Don't use too much tongue at all.

Narcan9 · 2021-09-04T19:51:34+00:00

My first kiss I was 11 years old, but the girl was older, 13 and already experienced with dating. She grabbed me and shoved her tongue in my mouth. My mouth flailed like a Punch-Drunk boxer. The girl thought I was laughing at her as we kissed, so she got pissed and stormed off 🤷‍♂️🤣

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