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RoseRed20 · 2021-08-22T00:25:58+00:00

What exactly do you want her to say to that? She's talking, making time, accepted a coffee date. You need her to say in advance she'll put out? Over the POSSIBILITY you pay for a coffee? why men fail

YouLoveYouLoose · 2021-08-21T23:05:15+00:00

It sounds like she is intrigued which is why she said yes and is wanting to find out more... don't shoot yourself in the foot asking straight off "are you attracted to me?" It looks insecure. You have already past the first hurdle so have fun on the date, keep it light and then 2/3rds in or towards the end, tell her you find her very attractive and that you hope it's reciprocated, giving her the opportunity to tell you she is into you.

catfish_milk · 2021-08-21T23:07:20+00:00

Hell nah. If she wasn’t that into you she wouldn’t have agreed going for coffee with you. Also asking her if she’s into you is a turn off. Stop validating girls, you’ll scare her away. Texting is for logistics only fyi.

thethrowowoy · 2021-08-21T23:07:46+00:00

She is agreeing to meet you for coffee. She likes you.

One way to ensure she loses interest is to get paranoid about whether she does like you.

Go in with the expectation that she does like you like that. Even if she doesn't yet, she will begin to if that's your attitude. Keep up the flirting, but never try and get her to sign a contract of 'I like OP'.

Girls love the mystery and probably don't know many of the answers in their own head. Lead the coffee date, compliment her a bit and you'll probably get some in return. Once it is finished, suggest that you do something which is unquestionably a date.

At this stage she owes you nothing. If that's hard for you to come to terms with, you'll find it difficult in the real world. You are both agreeing to spend time together, you are both investing something into this.

IGetBoredSometimes23 · 2021-08-22T05:32:06+00:00

If she's going on a coffee date with you, she's into you.

There's a few women out there that will try to do a fancy dinner for a free meal, but you can't do that with coffee.

SecretsAndSin · 2021-08-21T23:32:55+00:00

Absolutely you should tell her your expectations before wasting her time. Lol she gave you her number, has texted and video chatted with you, and has agreed to spending time alone together with you in public. The purpose of which is to get to know someone to find out if you like them or not, btw. If you want someone who will just have sex with you whether they want to or not, go pay a professional sex worker for their services. Maybe don't treat women looking to date men of substance like they are unpaid prostitutes good only to serve your unrealistic expectations.

LakersAreTerrible25 · 2021-08-22T00:25:50+00:00

I think the issue is you're thinking too much into it. You don't wanna be too pushy to begin with anyway. Its either shes attracted to you or not. Nothing you say (barring something stupid) is going to change that. Personally as I've gotten more experienced with women, I actually don't make the move as aggressively as I once did (although that worked too). Get to know her through basic conversation and most importantly make sure you're certain if you even wanna fuck the chick to begin with. A lot of times you can't know this until you've actually met up for the first time

apaullo86 · 2021-08-22T13:41:25+00:00

Bro it’s just coffee. You have coffee and drinks with your friends. Not going to break the bank to see if you like her or not. That’s the cost of trying to find a girl.

TheSunshineMan · 2021-08-21T23:03:51+00:00

Don't tell a girl she's hot - just.. don't.

I wouldn't - as good chance it'll put too much pressure on her - and she'll just flake on you - even if she liked you in the first place.

As far as spending a SINGLE CENT - who brought up the coffee date - if her, make her pay.. or just pay your own - if you brought it up - stop asking girls out to public dates - ask the girl straight to your place.

If you're really worried about it, just tell the girl to forget the coffee and have her come straight to your place.

ASAPjunkiee · 2021-08-21T22:30:08+00:00

100% agree with that. Bring it up with her and work off that, see if she sees something with you. Don’t spend a single cent! I love that

VeerVansh · 2021-08-21T22:44:10+00:00

You are right, make sure she's interested in you before taking people out or its just a waste of money and time

MasterofMiami · 2021-08-22T05:29:01+00:00

Don’t bring market norms into social norms. If you don’t want to spend a cent, do what others suggest and invite her straight to your place. Otherwise almost no girl worth your time will agree to commit to sex before you even met - imagine how weird you could end up being. She doesn’t know you’re normal yet, so she doesn’t wanna promise anything and is gonna be weirded out if you try to get her to soft commit to things before meeting in-person

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