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[–]TheSunshineMan 4 points5 points6 points 4 years ago* (9 children) | Copy Link
and hand her my number as I walk out the door.
And 9/10 she won't message you.
Often because she has a fear of you not messaging her back - and she'll feel rejected.
Or - she'll figure you're not MAN enough or CONFIDENT enough to just ask for hers.
Women like confident men - be confident - you need to get her number.
Regret is worse than rejection.
[–]ThrowRA-bonsai 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (6 children) | Copy Link
she'll figure you're not MAN enough or CONFIDENT enough to just ask for hers.
What seems more confident and masculine to you? Asking for something valuable, or offering something valuable?
You ask for her number in a busy, high-visibility workplace setting while her manager is breathing down her neck, there's a 9.9/10 chance she'll say no because she isn't allowed to do that at work.
You offer her your number discreetly after confidently stating your intentions, there's a 9/10 she'll never message you, but at least you save her the humiliation of being put in an uncomfortable situation in front of her coworkers and customers.
It's just a matter of respect dude. She gets the option, I get the opportunity, if I never hear from her again I still have a date booked this week.
[–]TheSunshineMan 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link
but at least you save her the humiliation of being put in an uncomfortable situation in front of her coworkers and customers.
You need thicker skin - once you go down this "excuse" path of all the reasons on why you shouldn't approach - you're done.
It's a slippery slope..
You make excuses not to approach during this situation - then you'll just keep making excuses for others - and before you know it - you're missing out on 9/10 of approaches you should be doing - because now you've convinced yourself that it's wrong to approach in all these situations.
[–]ThrowRA-bonsai 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
That isn't an excuse to avoid approaching her. It's a diplomatic strategy to make the approach easier for her. I think you're either ignoring the logistics here or trolling.
Do I have the balls to ask her for her number? Yes. I ask women for their numbers all the time. Does she have the balls to write her number down and accept a date while a line of customers impatiently waits for her to ring up their shoes? Probably not. I wouldn't expect her to, either.
[–]TheSunshineMan 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
Obviously nobody here but you knows the situation - it's just that 99% of guys would rather make excuses for any reason they can think of vs just go out and do it.
If you're day gaming there's almost always people around.
And I know that getting her number is way better than giving you hers because the odds are way higher to convert that into a date/fuck.
[–]ThrowRA-bonsai 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Obviously nobody here but you knows the situation
I think my post outlined the situation pretty well. She threw some IOIs, we share some common interests, but she is not in a position to give out her number in this particular environment. I understand the odds are lower when offering mine, but it's the only approach in this scenario and I'm going to shoot my shot. My general question to the board is: How can I optimize those low odds in a situation like this?
[–]TheSunshineMan -2 points-1 points0 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
How can I optimize those low odds in a situation like this?
By growing some balls and saying F it, and asking for her number.
You say you want to break out of your comfort zone, here's your chance.
[–]BluePsychosisDude2 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
In sales it's best to get people's numbers rather than give out yours as well, because most people forget about you after the interaction, while you're busy thinking about that potential sale. I don't know for sure, but if you give a chick your number, she's probably just going to think "he was neat" and then forget about you by the end of the day; whereas if you have her number you'll probably be thinking about her all day.
[–]_Turiya 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
may a more privileged redditor award you for that 👍🏼
[–]SuperFuzz666 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Write her a note to say you think she's really cute and you'd like to take her out sometime. If that sounds like fun then here's my number. Text me and we'll go out and do something. And put your name at the end.
You can't just ask her in front of her colleagues, you need to be discreet because it's be embarrassing for her to ask in front of her co workers. But if you write her a note, she'll think it's sweet and it's no pressure on her.
Don't take it personally If she doesn't text, she might have a bf or a gf, or she just might not be into you which is fine.
I think most people here would consider this awful advice but it's the strategy I'm going to go with. I will probably word the note a little differently. She may not even be working next time I go in there, but I hardly know her so it's no big deal if nothing happens. I'll still get a cool pair of shoes.
[–]SuperFuzz666 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Good luck dude, hope it works out for you and you enjoy your cool shoes
[–]Craft_feisty 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Just my two cents oh how to do it in a non creepy manner. When you’re about to leave the next time, tell her you enjoy talking to her and think she’s cool, then ask if she’s down for coffee or arcade sometime.
Use friendly, open body language and an calm, warm tone of voice. Also ask in a way that doesn’t put her in the spot or under pressure. She’ll respect your confidence and you get an answer
[–]atomant88 -1 points0 points1 point 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Forget it
[–][deleted] -1 points0 points1 point 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
just dont do it. many other ways to meet girls
[–]pitterpatter812 -2 points-1 points0 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
There isn’t a non creepy way to do it. Just skip it altogether.
[–]Vibez__ 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Let's just say if you don't try, you'll never know. Hired guns are very difficult to get out on a date, though, and they'll tend to give you their number to get rid of you. So if you're going back to that store, prepare for it to be kinda awkward if you bump into each other.
Imo, meet a random girl out on the street or in a bar etc, much less chance of ever seeing them again if they reject you there and then or if you don't mesh well after the first date.
[–]TheSunshineMan 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
prepare for it to be kinda awkward if you bump into each other.
Who cares.. stop taking things so seriously..
So what if she rejects you.. you're way too outcome dependent.
I've had this happen to me a ton of times, then the next time around - you make small talk again - and boom she gives you the number and you meet up.
So what either way, why do you guys take things so seriously.
It's only awkward because you think/make it awkward.
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