Brought a girl to my place, but couldn’t manage to turn it into physical.

WIA20XX · 2018-09-17T17:43:29+00:00

To make this kiss back at your place easy, you have to lay the groundwork from the beginning.

1) verbally flirt.
2) skin to skin contact from touching.
3) take her from place to place safely.

If you just try to mug her down when you get home, it can be weird. It's not impossible but that requires more skill and experience than you seem to have.

The language barrier may be an issue as well. .

ImJustSo · 2018-09-17T19:29:59+00:00

Touching women is like climbing a ladder. Try the first 5 steps before reaching the 6th or you won't be close or comfortable with trying.

You get to step 5 and higher up the ladder, then step 6 seems easy and it's right there.

Legs touch, arms touch, hands touch, then hands touch other things, then kiss, then touch, then fuck.

Every step makes you both more comfortable taking the next step.

Deebo38 · 2018-09-17T17:32:35+00:00

You still have hope. I didnt do anything physical with my girl for the first couple of weeks. Just kiss her dude

limache · 2018-09-17T21:38:24+00:00

Gently touch her face and look straight at her. If she’s not pulling away, you’re good to go

un_salamandre · 2018-09-18T14:37:36+00:00

I won't comment on what you did right or wrong, but I think the outset of "I couldn't manage" is a bit misguided. Don't forget it's not your responsibility 100% what happens. It depends on your partner too.

LingeringGnome · 2018-09-17T19:55:34+00:00

>This entire thing lasted for 4 hours and almost seemed like a date.

Sounds like a date to me.

>Now on the next day

you were at a bar with her for four hours and didn't ask her home with you or go for the kiss?

> we went out for Oktoberfest and to a nightclub. At this point she tells me that she doesn’t really like seeing people >kissing publically

Wow, what a missed opportunity! As soon as she says that I say, "yeah, because they're not as hot as us" and go in for the kiss with a cocky grin.

>so we come out of the club and I ask her if she wants to come back with me to my place.

Nice.

>After reaching my place, I thought it would be easy to escalate, but I couldn’t find any moment to kiss her without >making it awkward.

As soon as she puts her purse down grin and go for a passionate kiss, hand flat on the arch of her back, fingers spread wide.

Trying to kiss a woman is NOT AWKWARD. Letting it stew in your mind endlessly as the evening dithers away is what's awkward.

>So we just ended chit chatting and watching familyguy. In the end we just went to sleep without >doing anything >physical

lol

Invite her over tonight, the go for the kiss as soon as the door is closed. Show her that you want her in a healthy way. I cannot tell you how many times I;'e heard women complain about liking a guy but that he was to submissive, so they ghosted him.

Title	Brought a girl to my place, but couldn’t manage to turn it into physical.
Author	Rand12z
Upvotes	11
Comments	18
Date	September 17, 2018 5:27 PM UTC (7 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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