My relationship manifesto (list)

ImJustSo · 2017-09-23T20:37:20+00:00

I would like to add, but there's too much. What I'd really like to do is take away a few points that I disagree with, because they're geared towards more short term relationships.

I'll explain...

Don’t make your relationship the primary focus.

I have been with her for 14 years, it is impossible to separate our life together and everything we plan must consider another human being. Even when the other isn't included, we still must consider the other person. Everything else in your list before this still works though. I don't sacrifice any part of who I am for her, except for who I'm allowed to have relations with besides her. If she says "No, not her" then I listen.

Do not complain, whine or act like you’re in a bad mood and need attention.

I disagree with this, because using your partner for support should not be a concern. If you can't confide in her like you can confide in yourself, then you shouldn't be with her long term.

Be less invested than her.

No, be exactly as invested as her, at all times. Demand equal investment as well. Don't tolerate or settle for less and don't give more than you're getting.

But if you give less than you're getting, then you're a fuckin asshole and don't deserve to share that person's life. Go be alone, and quit being a parasite.

If this isn't your belief, then please change this one thing. Everything else you've said is relatable....but that one thing doesn't fit into all the other ideals you listed.

A confident man shouldn't feel insecure being just as invested, and a confident man wouldn't invest more than his partner.

zbf · 2017-09-23T18:57:04+00:00

Tldr Be confident.

mitsigan · 2017-09-24T09:15:53+00:00

Don't be more invested than her.

FTFY, because in a healthy relationship the more you invest you profit.

HaitianFire · 2017-09-23T19:35:28+00:00

Yo, this is a great summary based on everything I've learned and accepted.

CantAbsolveMyself · 2017-09-24T07:11:48+00:00

Honestly though. With all this, what is the point in being in a relationship? If I am going to be an oak or a rock, it just sounds like a lot of giving and receiving nothing in return. So why stay with someone? What do they give you?

NunoHimself · 2017-09-24T09:23:33+00:00

I'd add "Be good in bed", because lets accept it, it's important.

wow_wow01 · 2017-09-24T10:49:17+00:00

Radicalmattitude1 · 2017-09-24T01:34:14+00:00

Thanks for sharing this. I really needed to hear it and get back on track in my relationship

recursoinominado · 2017-09-24T02:01:47+00:00

As someone with a good experience in relationships, this is one of the best lists I ever seen on the topic.

TheBossManGoalie · 2017-09-24T02:05:44+00:00

That about covers it all

jimmiepop · 2017-09-23T21:03:48+00:00

How is this relevant to seduction?

Try r/relationships.

Title	My relationship manifesto (list)
Author	TobyFR
Upvotes	294
Comments	37
Date	September 23, 2017 5:33 PM UTC (8 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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