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[–]itsfun2Bdumb 22 points23 points24 points 7 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
I find it’s tougher to approach when I’m with friends, I procrastinate from talking to girls and tell myself I’m having fun with my bros, and then get drunk with them and leave empty handed.
[–]ripgd 1 point2 points3 points 7 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Well you’ve described my exact issue right now. Tried with a wingman out of interest?
[–]hydrolith 8 points9 points10 points 7 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
I think if you have friends who understand game then it's better to go out with them, unfortunately in my experience most don't, cockblock and make things harder, so I have to go out alone. I can still get things done alone, but it would be much better imo to have the support of people and friends who know what the fuck is going on. BTW, why is it so hard to find (friends who understand game)?
[–]Styloburner 0 points1 point2 points 7 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Amen
[–]muff_marauder 13 points14 points15 points 7 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I go out alone because my friends are idiots who cock block, shame me for not always going after the hottest girl in the room, or actively go after a girl I'm interested in as I'm talking to her because they know I have good taste.
So, weakness. It would be stronger to have a group of guy friends who are smart, fun, and work as a team to get each other laid.
[–]Jugurthajones87 11 points12 points13 points 7 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I feel like a loser when I go out alone and assume all those other people who are there with friends and significant others feel the same way about me.
[–]__TheDon__ 0 points1 point2 points 7 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Strength
[–]rickcollins2 0 points1 point2 points 7 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Strength for sure
[–]SonofLelith 0 points1 point2 points 7 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Strength, no doubt. Having fun, speaking to people and doing it alone speaks volumes of your character or it will build it....a lot.
[–]sink_flower234 0 points1 point2 points 7 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
In order of least effective to most effective:
Co-dependent relationship is you and a wingman, or you and a friend, who need each other to get out of the house, who need each other for motivation or to get laid. This is unhealthy and ineffective. Neither of you will probably get laid and will probably drag each other down even if you have good intentions.
Independent relationship is you go out by yourself OR you go out with a wingman or friend/s but you seperate from them, and you don't need anyone to get laid or for motivation or for anything. You pickup on your own and get what you want.
Interdependent relationship is you go out with a friend/wingman not needing anything from them who also doesn't need you for anything, BUT you both work synergistically to get MORE results and MORE motivation and MORE sex than you could if you were by yourself. Most effective.
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Me personally, I am at the independent stage as I go out along and get occasional success and haven't found an excellent independent wingman to work with yet.
[–]mrxdafresh 0 points1 point2 points 7 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Strength, I go out alone all the time and the mindset I have is that if I go out alone and I'm enjoying myself then that means I could care less about what people think. When someone reaches that level of no fucks given, that's a dangerous person right there. I still do get anxious from time to time but I just hype myself up before I go out.
[–]Kenic_In_MD 0 points1 point2 points 7 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link
I found going out alone is very hit or miss and is entirely dependent on your mood. I go out alone all the time, I've had it go crazy well and I have had it go crazy bad.
[–]sink_flower234 0 points1 point2 points 7 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
That's because you're a reactive person. Going out alone and getting results has to do with the actions you take NOT your mood. If you like to blame on things out of your control you will use your moods as an excuse.
[–]mrxdafresh 1 point2 points3 points 7 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
I feel like it's more mood than action though. If I go out and I'm in a bad mood then that leads to 0 actions being taken, if I went out in a good mood then I would most likely approach more and such.
[–]Kenic_In_MD 0 points1 point2 points 7 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
I have to agree, it's more of a mood that sets the theme for me. Sometimes you simply feel like staying in. Maybe it's cause I'm older but there are nights I just dont feel like it lol.
I have gone out on nights that I didn't want to and I would just sit in a corner mingle with one or two people and just generally keep to myself. No one can be "on it" 100% of the time, it's not how humans work.
[–]mrxdafresh 1 point2 points3 points 7 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Yeah, I learned this the hard way. I thought my "kind of just want to stay home and watch movies" mood would change once I was in the club but as much as I tried to change that, I didn't. My night that time wasn't pleasant at all.
You guys are gonna fail at this if you hold that mindset. You’re not right and neither am I. We just have different perceptions. You can see it from a “I need to feel good to act” or “I’m gonna act anyway regardless of how I feel” I prefer the latter as it puts me in control and I can keep taking action and get better. You will only be able to take sporadic action when you feel good but that won’t be enough to get better. Change your perception and you’ll do better is my point.
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