Demonstrate value after approaching

Club__Paradise · 2022-10-17T08:25:01+00:00

That period between getting her number and texting her is like trying to make it over a steep canyon. You make a strong connection when you're with her and you'll be well equipped to make it across and get a response at the other side. If you rush the interaction, quickly go for the number before developing a connection and then bounce, it's like blindly jumping and hoping you'll make it. In many cases you won't.

I know when I first started approaching, I was so nervous and worried I wouldn't know what to say, so I'd go into the set and try and get out as quickly as possible. And of course, my ticket to getting out was landing her number. Sure, this was fine for getting over that initial anxiety of approaching, but it did very little to build a lasting connection with the girl.

Building attraction is a huge topic, but all I can say here is don't rush it and don't even bother asking for her number if you can see that she's not that interested or engaged in you. When you get to the point where she's making good eye contact, she's laughing, she's asking you questions beyond just small talk and clearly showing interest in you, either go for an instadate or suggest (don't ask) hanging out sometime when you're both free, grab her number to arrange it.

earsurgery9 · 2022-10-17T08:18:40+00:00

you're essentially asking what you can say/do to force attraction in a girl.

This was the promise of 'game' back in like 2004 although you might have noticed that this trend/idea kind of died out

I mean, in THEORY, you can MAKE her attracted by using DHV stories and negs (if you believe in mysterymethod) or by using cold reads (if you believe in london day game model) or by being super direct (if you believe in mode1) etc

However, does it actually work? If it did, i'm sure we'd all be sleeping with models (since all of this stuff is very easy to do and the PUA's even gave us scripts to achieve each technique)

But ask yourself why this style of game seemingly died out? The ONLY answer can be that it doesn't actually work lol. Because even if it's cringy or whatever, guys would put their self respect to the side and still be doing this stuff if it made super hot girls half their age attracted to them in the same way they're attracted to the super handsome dude playing pool in the bar

If you want to continue this avenue though, test it yourself. Write down a few DHV stories and use them after you open and see if they work or not. Or write down some cold reads and stuff and see if THEY work. You'll get your answer soon enough

I'd say the actual answer is that all you can do is try to not appear too awkward or nervous, and, dare I say , just 'be yourself'/demonstrate your unique personality the best that you can. But know that in terms of 'sexual attraction' ((which is a 100% pre-requisiste if you want to hook up with her) it's essentially NOT in your control

RedditsOlderBrah · 2022-10-17T05:26:41+00:00

you are currently demonstrating being pleasant. and you're very good at it. but if they are not replying you were not attractive to them.

every woman finds different things attractive to different degrees. it is your job to identify or correctly guess what those traits are and audition for the part.

Chicagoj1563 · 2022-10-17T20:55:58+00:00

It’s attraction material you need. There is alot that goes into it, but at a simple level, you need to adjust what you are doing. Try out different things. Here are a few principles you can try, see what happens.

Have a strong sense of entitlement in terms of your right to talk to her. Don’t just start a random conversation. Walk up with energy as if you already know her, and have a vibe where something amazing just happened that you have to tell her or her friends about. Again , approach with a strong sense of entitlement. Fully expect a positive response. Experiment with different energy levels.

Try to tease the girl right off the open. Just fuck with her a little bit. Mix in being normal as well, don’t just push, push , push. You have to pull as well. But try to challenge her in a playful self amusing way.

Show sexual intent with your vibe and verbals. Be unfiltered. Say shit no other guy would say to this girl. Use good judgment, don’t over do it. But experiment with a few cold reads and teases. Try not to care if you say things that may push her away. It’s all self amusement. Again, use good judgment. There has to be a balance. But, most guys are too soft and normal.

For instance, for simple teasing, accuse her of hitting on you, she’s madly in love with you, she wants to tear your clothes off, etc… just have some fun messing with her in a self amusing playful way.

You can also role play. Improvise a story about her with a full cast of characters. Make fun of her job, her hobbies, or anything else that comes up. Just make up a playful story about it.

Experiment, see what feedback you get.

Title	Demonstrate value after approaching
Author	blaubarschbube27
Upvotes	12
Comments	8
Date	October 17, 2022 4:31 AM UTC (3 years ago)
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