Despite putting myself out there and talking to girls I feel like im not really making much progress

DeeMore · 2013-02-07T22:27:19+00:00

It will get easier with time. I know exactly what your talking about with the awkward thing. At some point you will realize that you can just power through these things and keep them totally cool.

The learning curve can be steep for this kind of thing. Like you might do all this for a while and not see much results but then suddenly stuff starts to change very rapidly.

A good idea is to hang out with other cool kids and study them and see how they handle situations. This can be a great to make rapid progress.

DrunkAtTheWedding · 2013-02-07T22:40:22+00:00

Meditate. The reason meditation works is because it requires skill to stop consciously thinking. The more you meditate, the more you practice clearing your mind. The better you get at meditating, the more natural it will feel to just word vomit and react to the moment, rather than trying to think of something and coming up with nothing. Trust in the meditation.

Also, practice makes perfect. They say 10,000 hours makes a master. I learn a lot and improve pretty quickly. It doesn't happen over night. Interact with 30 people every day, try holding conversations with everyone, say whatever comes to your mind, and rather than what is safe. Getting out of a sticky situation gives you 10X the experience as not getting into one, and not getting of it makes you outcome independent (which helps solve your first problem).

just talk to everyone, and say anything, all of the time.

readonlyuser · 2013-02-08T21:50:05+00:00

How often are you going out or talking to girls? How long have you kept up a sustained and regular effort to meet people?

ruffyamaharyder · 2013-02-09T03:42:45+00:00

You are worried about it being awkward which is weird. You shouldn't care if it gets awkward. If you keep thinking, "OMG it's gonna get awkward," you will stop relaxing and thinking about stuff to chat about. You'll also stop calibrating where she's at and how she's doing.

Worst case scenario, if you feel your mind going into "OMG awkward" and it gets quite just say, "You're so quiet, you don't have to be nervous around me." with a smile. That will buy you some time. She will respond with something and your job will be to take back control of the convo after that.

Title	Despite putting myself out there and talking to girls I feel like im not really making much progress
Author	superduper12309
Upvotes	3
Comments	5
Date	February 7, 2013 9:17 PM UTC (13 years ago)
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