Did high school ruin future interactions with anyone else on this sub?

2019-01-10T13:04:42+00:00

Well, reading/watching a lot of material is counter productive some say, but it's helped me with inner game. When you see the 10th or 50th video or book that says along the same lines of that any guy has a lot of potential and girls don't want 1 type of guy, it starts to sink in. They can't all just be making up the exact same thing. Bombard yourself with the right information.

And get large, you're working on that, eventually you start looking in the mirror and thinking fuck yeah, and seeing how other guys are skinny, weedy, pot bellies and hunching their back and staring at the ground or their phone, and you KNOW you're moving up, it's not just in your head. You feel like you have value because you see the competition. You get more of those glances from girls, and if you're noticing one or two then there are a lot more secret ones you never see, trust me.

Maybe also keep a photo of you a few years ago to remind you the physical difference. 1 year of dedicated lifting gets you from pathetic to average, the next year it's second nature to just gym all the time, eat better, by the end of that you will be definitely getting more looks (I am anyway).

And look you do need some results to validate yourself for it to be real. I can't tell you how to do that, but it's probably going to involve saying 'fuck it, maybe I'm creepy now but it just takes experience to level up, lets do 500 approaches'. Just start, just do it. You'll almost pass out from the cringey rejection the first 10 times, then you start to get more relaxed and naturally girls react better etc. You have to make it second nature. Assume a 1% success rate even tho it will eventually be better than this, assume the rejection, and be happy with the experience whatever happens.

For me what started to convince me I wasn't worthless was going to Thailand. I'd slept with a fair few girls before - ugly trolls only though as my game was zero and my value otherwise just a generic white guy. In Thailand white = Brad Pitt though.

I got on dating apps and matched with 90% of girls. The first girl I met off a similar site to Tinder barely spoke English but she was keen to meet. I thought it might be a scam or she might expect money or she might actually be a gang of kidnappers. But YOLO right? I either die or have a date of some sort, so it's win/win.

Met her, just talked and had a few drinks, she took me to her favourite club and I did my worst white guy dancing to bad cover bands. I noticed she hadn't resisted any of my touching, from hand holding, arm around her, even hands on her ass in the club. So it just seemed natural to say 'its late, I'm tired, let's find hotel?'

So the rest is history there, we had a great time all night long, in fact were pretty much still going at it right up until checkout time in between short naps. And she was so hot. Insane body, really sweet. I was like fuck, she didn't even want money, she didn't want to marry for a visa, she just kissed me goodbye and I never saw her again.

That just unlocked the beliefs part of my mind. That just happened. She wasn't crazy, she was into me.

Now whenever I get rejected or unmatched by a 2/10 in the street or on Tinder who was only going to be practise anyway, I remember that girl and the other hot girls I've been with, and remind myself it's not me that they're rejecting, it's the approach, or their own situation, maybe they have some hangup about strangers, or their dog just died, or they lost their job that day. You aren't worthless just because someone didn't want to talk to you in the street.

Other thing is you can't rely on your looks even if you're moderately ok looking. You can't just sit there waiting for IOIs before approaching. Take them if they appear, but generally below 8/10 in looks guys are invisible to women, they just barely register that we exist like we're some kind of useless NPC. They don't think 'meh, he's fuckable' like we do with any girl over a 5/10, because their aim is to be more selective due to the evolutionary risks of getting pregnant etc. So you have to approach to break the barrier and force them to react. One approach I did on the weekend was a cute Japanese girl who was walking nearby and absolutely wouldn't have noticed I existed otherwise. But I opened her confidently, just asked about good coffee shops, and she was smiling and giggling. Even if she thought I was cute, she would never have taken the risk to approach me herself because I don't look like absolute top tier model. That's fine. You show them the other types of value you have, confidence, ability to flirt and banter, just connect with them.

J_A_B_88 · 2019-01-10T08:13:42+00:00

Oh for sure. It comes with age/maturity. My mindset drastically changed from highschool/college/ too now (26yrs old). Start trying to make changes now so when you look back in a couple of years you can see how far you've progressed. Believe in yourself and make yourself happy, stop thinking about how others perceive you.

EnvironmentalTwister · 2019-01-11T04:22:05+00:00

Nah, learning about this stuff after basically being a social outcast in high school and doing a complete 180 in college, it helped me grow to who I am now.

Taking up fitness helped me with interactions with the opposite sex and guys respecting me. If I could to high school over I'd obviously do things differently but meh, life's about the moment

Title	Did high school ruin future interactions with anyone else on this sub?
Author	Goldfielddid911
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Date	January 10, 2019 4:47 AM UTC (7 years ago)
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