Hey Guys,

I've been noticing an annoying trend occurring lately with my dating life. After experiencing several dates that from all indications went well (Heart to heart convo, lots of kino, heavy makeup, girl tells me point blank she wants to see me again) I have been having difficulty actually achieving a second date.

On Monday I met this cute girl on Tinder for drinks at a local bar near my apartment. From the very moment we met she had this really excited energy about her and we began to have a super fun conversation. The conversation was a mix of light hearted fun topics to more heart to heart topics (Greatest life accomplishments, dreams, vulnerable childhood stories, etc). During the second drink I challenged her to thumb wrestle. I let her win the first round but tell her 'Hey lets make this interesting. If I win, I get to kiss you.' she then goes 'But what happens if I beat you ? I answer with 'Well then you get to kiss me!'. She says 'deal!' and after we finish the game we start heavily making out.

We finish our drinks and move to the second bar where we have some food and drinks and continue to make out. Eventually its time to go and I offer to walk her home to which she responds 'No, but I'll walk you home!'. The whole walk back to my apartment we are holding hands and spontaneously kissing. I was mentioning to her about the weight lifting program and she goes 'I weigh only 130. You think you can lift me?'. I then pick her up and start carrying her the rest of the block to my apartment. She starts making out with me even more as I am carrying her. We get to my apartment and I begin to give her the tour. We then start making out hot and heavy again, this time are hands are seriously starting to wander. I then say to her 'Why don't you stay for one more drink' to which she responds with 'No I don't think I can, I have work in the morning'. We start making out some more and the intensity begins to ramp up again. At its peak I whisper in her eye 'Stay, I want to taste you'. She then says 'I know but I have to go'. At that point I say 'Ok, lemme get my car keys'. We walk to my car and this time she is holding me even more closely than before. We have a fun chat and I tell her that I would like to see her again. She then tells me 'I'm very busy between now and Saturday'. She starts listing her reasons, but then adds 'Im not playing the busy card because I don't want to see you again, I just don't have the time until the weekend'. We get to her apartment, park, and we begin to heavily make out once more for a few minutes. She says goodnight and away she goes.

The next morning I send her a funny text about an inside joke of ours. Nothing. No read receipt. I wait 24 hours and notice that she un-matched me on Tinder (I try not to jump to conclusions yet). I send her one more follow up text about meeting up on Saturday. 24 hours later nothing. No read receipt. Its obvious now she has no intentions in seeing me for a second date since she has effectively severed all communication with me. Fellas what am I missing in my approach? I have no problem getting numbers and dates whether it be online or IRL. I dress well, have an interesting job, am decent looking, physically fit, play several musical instruments, lots of hobbies, read lots of books, etc. I also have no problem escalating. Most of my dates end with a healthy make-out session. What am I missing here? My only suspicion is maybe I am leaking out a tad bit of neediness. For instance at one point she mentioned being into an obscure foreign film I liked to which I answered ' Wow. Your'e the first person I have met that has seen that film.I think I might be starting to like you'.