Does anyone get extremely depressed in a club sometimes?

sharpiescribe · 2015-07-31T22:19:14+00:00

Same here. Whenever I go out by myself to a club, sometimes I'll feel real lonely, be stuck in my head, and feel completely isolated despite all the energy/hype/turn up going on around me. I'll feel like a complete outcast as though I'm disconnected from the whole world. (I don't drink too much nor smoke/drugs so I end up just having to tough it out the emotions)

The seriousness comes from the mindset of having a pre-conceived plan, carefully thought-out expectations, and trying to stick to that agenda. The whole point of going out is TO HAVE FUN. The club is fun because it is SPONTANEOUS with endless possibilities!!! You never know whats going to happen, who you may meet, or even go home with on a given night. Being so serious can blind you, frustrate you, and make you ungrateful for all the awesomeness and crazy shit that happens from going out.

Ways I have tried to help reduce the seriousness is to focus on being a source of positive energy and making sure other people are having a good time. Practical ways I do this is:

Offer to buy people drinks/shots/food (Guys and girls loves FREE things. Everybody likes someone who shows love and generosity)
Go around and genuinely compliment people (Everybody is self-conscious about their looks. Having someone say they like their shirt,shoes,watch is always great to hear).
Go out with your friends/wingman (The more the merrier, you don't have to do it all by yourself)
Legitimately enjoy the club (Dance, sing the lyrics, enjoy the music, pretend you're a rock star, stop giving a shit about people)
Stay mobile and keep physically moving around (It will help by putting your focus on whats going on)

You'll feel the vibes build up inside, Your positive energy is contagious, and people will be more open and willing to respond to you. Enjoy the club for what is in having fun, hanging with friends, and meeting people. Another thing to help during the week, prior to the club is Meditation/Inner Game. It will help with relaxing, being more calm with your inner dialogue, and ultimately realizing that the club/approaches are not that damn important to the grand scheme of your life. Live and enjoy yourself.

loredbyrawn · 2015-07-31T20:23:22+00:00

May I suggest listening to this song by The Smiths:

https://youtu.be/pEq8DBxm0J4

In which are included the lyrics:

There's a club if you'd like to go

you could meet somebody who really loves you

so you go, and you stand on your own

and you leave on your own

and you go home, and you cry

and you want to die

elchucknorris300 · 2015-07-31T18:46:41+00:00

I have that problem. I usually just leave to do something I enjoy and then come back another night when I want to actually be there. I also make a deal with myself - like talk to a stranger (male or female) and then I can leave. Occasionally that gets enough momentum going that I snap out of my mood, start enjoying the club, and end up staying.

Juanco93 · 2015-07-31T18:50:41+00:00

Same here! Some nights for whatever reason I begin to feel depressed and just want to go home to sleep. Don't know why that happens. I guess that suddenly I realize that I just won't meet no one, and that I'm doing nothing and I should just go home.

I guess that if I had to give some advice would be something that I'm sure you have heard many times before: when you go out, just think in having fun with your friends. Or just have fun on your own! Don't put your hopes in something external to you, that way you won't be let down and you'll have the control of your emotions. Hope it makes some sense!

aHomonym · 2015-07-31T19:47:27+00:00

I find sometimes that if I stop to look around at everyone in a club they all look so sad just below the surface and it fills me with what could only be described as despair. So i know how ya feel.

ItsNotAScam · 2015-08-01T22:38:32+00:00

I recommend just going with that feeling and buying more PUA material.

Title	Does anyone get extremely depressed in a club sometimes?
Author	AllHailTheCATS
Upvotes	6
Comments	8
Date	July 31, 2015 6:22 PM UTC (11 years ago)
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