Hello Everyone , so I started doing bachata dancing like 2 months ago and because of dancing background when I was a kid I have reached intermediate level already so basically, I have tons of girls inviting me for dancing, I guess they watch me dance and then they invite me afterwards.

Anyway, I am happy that I can get invited very often. However, the reason I started dancing is because of first ( the music that I love ) but also because I wanted to expand my social circle, as for dating and gaming, I prefer largely to do it, in cold approach in different venues as I think its a little bit hard in social dancing.

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Why I write this post now, is that I am not succeeding into befriending women, I don't struggle with guys and fortunately now I have many male friends in that field or good acquaintances. But every time I want to be friend with a woman, she gives me the look of defense/disgust as if I was hitting on her, which I am definitely not. Sometimes, I just don't know what the hell to talk about with girls in that special setting, I don't get how there is guys that I see always knowing the right thing to say. Also, I think there is many guys speaking with girls while hitting on them in bachata social dancing, and when I see them I think wow they are talking so much, but maybe the guy is just asking the girls the classic answers of what u do, what's your name etc the basics

So I guess. I just don't know how to talk to woman in order to be their friend, I don't know why there is guys with many women friend. .

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Sorry for my English