Every dating book keeps telling me that I'm probably getting signals constantly, but don't notice them. In my experience, I notice signals constantly, and most of the time it turns out to be delusional.

letsgetrandy · 2022-01-16T14:39:49+00:00

Everything about signals is utter garbage -- not just the advice you read, but your own mental attitude itself.

The reason these books talk about signals is not because they actually mean anything or that they even work. These books only talk about signals because the world is filled with insecure guys who want signals, and are willing to pay their hard-earned money to any asshole claiming that he can explain them.

The fact about signals is that your desire to see them simply stems from your own insecurity. You want to know that you're going to succeed before trying. That's fucking insane! Do you think Michael Jordan would have become the greatest basketball player ever if he had been afraid to play unless he knew he would win? Hell no! Michael Jordan won precisely because he knew it wasn't guaranteed, so he practiced hard every day to give himself the best chance of doing it.

If you want a better success rate with women, talk to more women!. You need to get better at interacting with people, better at spotting who's available, better at making strangers comfortable with you. You need to practice. Stop looking for some big neon sign saying "this one! over here!"

JacobMoogberg69 · 2022-01-16T19:53:33+00:00

They are not wrong, but just because you are getting signals doesn't mean you are not coming across as either trying too hard or being a simp. Women really experience one of two or theee approaches.

The "hey what's up baby, let me show you how great and awesome I am by wearing my nicest clothes and most expensive watch and huffing and puffing myself up and trying to impress you.

OR

The "wow you are the most beautiful woman i have ever seen, I will eat 10 feet of your shit just to see where it comes from".

None of these make a woman feel good about herself.

2022-01-16T16:24:50+00:00

Subtle signals can be cryptic, ambiguous, poorly conveyed, and ultimately misunderstood. Body language experts will tell you that rules about the signals they analyze are not accurate 100% of the time.

So screw signals, and approach the women you find attractive.

AnAngelOfVengeance · 2022-01-16T17:21:38+00:00

Don’t read into signals too much, way more attractive to just assume you are getting them. Strong enough frame and she will start to think she always liked you

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