Every time I try to make eye contact with a girl/woman she looks away before I am able to smile (6’4”/190lbs/I very rarely go to the gym)

RedPillAlphaBigCock · 2026-04-24T11:45:55+00:00

I find that whenever I SEEK good reactions I never get them. Women are REALLY good at reading eyes / ques.

What works for me is being on my purpose , relaxed and not seeking anything . Instead of seeking something , look to GIVE something eg: good vibes , good time or just a smile to make her day better

PostAvailable9966 · 2026-04-24T06:22:20+00:00

You are expecting the IOIs to be obvious, while you forget the also obvious tenet, that woman sexuality is covert, not overt.

Actually, this part has nothing to do with your SMV, it has to do with your inner game. Game just revealed a blind spot of your inner psyche.

NASA-Almost-Duck · 2026-04-24T08:59:52+00:00

I don't know how I wound up here, but I'll give it a crack. Women are pretty much trained to suss out vibes from somewhere between birth and learning about stranger danger. So many of them can practically smell negative energy on people.

EmperrorNombrero · 2026-04-24T11:13:30+00:00

I have the same recently. Either I'm ugly, or it's my blepharitis making my eyes look unfriendly.

Hell recently a girl came in the washing machine room of my dorm while I was inside there too and I said "Hello" and she literally ignored me and didn't answer like I wasn't even in the room

Objective_Height9961 · 2026-04-24T06:42:09+00:00

What I’m trying to say is that almost 99% of the time is that after initial eye contact the girl or woman immediately looks away before I’m even given the chance to be able to smile… literally., in any situation

Otherwise-Sympathy87 · 2026-04-24T07:22:26+00:00

Hard to tell without knowing anything about you, could be your appearance, style, demeanor, facial expressions, literally anything. Look at yourself in the mirror the way you look at them and see if you look creepy or anything.

Objective_Height9961 · 2026-04-24T07:42:00+00:00

Reddit is coccckblocking a lot of your replies — I get the notifications and click but it just brings me back to my own thread which is literally cenz zorred 🤦‍♂️

Objective_Height9961 · 2026-04-24T07:50:29+00:00

reddit is centxsoring all types of replies or their cdn is down, i domt know what types of keywords you guys are using the w word

Sorry-Place6291 · 2026-04-24T13:08:19+00:00

You gotta get some healthy muscle weight going. That’s eating nutrient dense foods, not calorie counting for a bit, and just getting some stored energy so you feel safe in your own skin. Stop trying to make eye contact with anyone that you don’t have a reason. It’s reaching. I’m not trying to be harsh but you’ll have to switch some things up for a bit. There will be another time to go back to a more restrictive regime

jsbach123 · 2026-04-24T14:51:08+00:00

It's normal for strangers not to make eye contact. If they look at you and you look back, it's normal for their eyes to dart away. Think about it: it'd be weird if two strangers keep locking eyes.

lskerlkse · 2026-04-24T20:01:25+00:00

ure 6'4" how do u expect anyone to make eye contact w u

OpinionThink481 · 2026-04-24T11:14:58+00:00

It’s not your job to smile or stare at a woman and waiting for them to give you a signal of interest. Your job is to approach a woman that you like simply because you want to.

The idea that you have to wait for a signal for women was only pushed by cowards who were afraid of rejection, it’s not actually a required step at all.

I approach women who never give any signs and some i go on dates with some reject me. Because that’s how it works. You go there try, and sometimes you win sometimes you lose.

You should also know that even if a woman would go out of her way to give you a green light? that only means she is inviting to try, it doesn’t mean that once you try she is guaranteeing that she will be impressed with your try and want to see you again.

So signals on the rare circumstance that they happen do not even mean a woman is sold on you just by looking at you.

ControlGood8979 · 2026-04-24T05:43:03+00:00

What is your question?

Objective_Height9961 · 2026-04-24T07:11:04+00:00

Even with 40+ year old women — My old homegirl referred me I’m assuming [who did this before by setting me up on a shit date which made me feel like a meal ticket before] as their mutual friends - She friend requested me on FB - but I completely innocently asked her “if she drove” and the conversation instantly dried up and she stopped responding right there. I just wanted her to meet me halfway so we could hike on trails, which she literally suggested but obviously I triggered something in her brain to make her not want me. I asked her “if she drove” first then later tacked on the “because I want to meet you halfway” later but this particular family of breeders has a history of setting me up for a free meal (1 time - could have been a fluke )

Objective_Height9961 · 2026-04-24T07:33:05+00:00

Thank all you guys for the responses :)

Objective_Height9961 · 2026-04-24T07:16:57+00:00

God I’m sorry if this is a mess and I have been drinking

Objective_Height9961 · 2026-04-24T06:36:26+00:00

Even with like 60+ year old woman the same happens which makes me feel socially… inept?

Objective_Height9961 · 2026-04-24T07:01:20+00:00

I generally have a very good cold approach rate approaching women, it’s gotta be at least 70%, the last physical approaches i failed, the cold approach just completely rejected me and the warm approach was my classmate who sat next to me in English in like fall semester last year… (I asked her to come over once or twice) she’s still with her boyfriend who sent me pictures of his arm flexing late night

Objective_Height9961 · 2026-04-24T07:11:35+00:00

I just do not ffkkg get it Reddit 😭

yallapapi · 2026-04-24T14:47:00+00:00

Bro you need to print out little cards that say “ hi I find you attractive but I’m an autistic retard, please 1) nod if you would like me to stay and talk to you or 2) shake your head if you would like me to leave you alone. Thank you m’lady”

Title	Every time I try to make eye contact with a girl/woman she looks away before I am able to smile (6’4”/190lbs/I very rarely go to the gym)
Author	Objective_Height9961
Upvotes	8
Comments	76
Date	April 24, 2026 5:20 AM UTC (3 months ago)
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