Disclaimer: This a post written from perspective of a female who does not enjoy game and doesn't play games herself while courting. Almost all of my posts will be about courting/ fostering a serious relationship with an ideal woman who is smart/intelligent/is there for her partner and supports him through thick or thin. I am here representing women like me. This is being written on special request from fellow redditors who are interested in my perspective and how to find and attain such a woman without needing to play games but still seducing with honesty and being 100% themselves.

FORCED disbalanced power dynamics should never come into a happy and healthy courtship/relationship. It's not a competition. A good woman will respect a man naturally. It will create resentment in one or both partners/love interest. It puts the burden on men (or women, whoever is playing games) to always calculate before they take their next step. Happiness attained this way will always be shallow and not fulfilling. It is like a drug addiction, you need more and more of it each day to get your high. Truly ask yourself this question: Are you trying to diminish your insecurities by placing them on your partner/love interest? If your fear is that you need to always have the upper hand in any dating relationship, otherwise she will walk all over you then she is NOT THE RIGHT PERSON for you. The insecurity and anxiety that you have will not leave your home but instead will shift onto you partner/love interest. One second she is happy because you are acting all loving and next second she is secretly depressed trying to figure out what happened to the man she talked to that morning or met last night on a date.

Sure you will see her giddy with excitement when you throw some love her way and affection/emotions, but she will also slowly derail with confusion and start to believe you don't love her. She chases you? That is what you want? Men PUA coaches and others will tell you that women chase you in this situation because now she truly loves you and her attraction is at all time high. Believe my words - some women will chase you for sure! But they are searching for the kind man they saw that morning. They stay because that is who they keep waiting for you to revert back to. And each time they meet the cold hearted you, she wonders and speaks to her friends about how she is in an unloving relationship. Chasing does not equal attraction. True stability between two mature partners increases attraction. Most men are surprised how their partners one day got up and left them without a word. The problem isn't she randomly woke up that morning and said you know what "I don't love john anymore". If she is a good woman she has been secretly crying and talking to her friends. Mostly likely complaining to you - you just called them shit tests and didn't listen to her. She had probably trying to figure out what is going on in her relationships. She leaves not because she stops loving you but she leaves because she is in search of a man who nurtures her day in and day out. She leaves heart broken.

Women who are emotionally unstable will continue going down this path over and over again. But a woman who has matured and worked on her emotionally stability will see this behavior, try to gently call you out on it and then each time you do this - it will have the opposite affect. During the courting phase you tell her "I am not sure about you" or "I am seeing other people and wow really like that girl Jessica" - she will take your word for it and stop pursuing you. Smart women understand attraction happens but entering a competition where they are setup for failure isn't something they want to pursue. Sometimes she will stick around because maybe she really thought you were it - but the more you push her buttons for no reason - she will place you in the category with all other men that are not emotionally mature to meet her halfway.

RED FLAGS:

Men: If you compare yourself to your love interest constantly and get jealous about her achievements - you need work. Real partnership brings people together who are good at variety of different things where one falters, the other picks up. You don't need to be in a relationship with a girl who lives in your shadow scared, but a woman who can stand next to you and support you through and through. Celebrate her successes and if she doesn't celebrate yours? She is not the one.

Women: If she emasculates you, is rude and demeaning if you open up to her emotionally then she needs to work on herself. Competition in board games, sports etc. is healthy fun but she should never disrespect you in private or publicly in a serious manner. A good woman uplifts her man even where he lacks because she knows she lacks in various areas too and will depend on him to help her grow.

A couple should always appear as a team in public - even if one disagrees. Disagreement can be debated in private politely and the whole world doesn't need to know. Don't make your relationships a battleground, there will always be causalities.