Finally manned up

2020-09-18T01:57:14+00:00

Well done - just move on and ignore her. Don’t rationalise or beat yourself up.

Don’t engage whatsoever.

It’ll blow her mind because women are almost never dumped

InternationalBorder9 · 2020-09-18T02:56:15+00:00

By the way if you do walk completely and remove all contact she’ll likely come back and try to fuck you. It may take months, but if you go no contact it’s highly likely.

An ex gf of mine played the same stunt. I dumped her. She married the guy and 9 months Later hit me up for “drinks”. I said I didn’t want drinks but she was welcome to come over Thursday. She did and we went straight to bed. She still comes back between boyfriends now.

Rasheemjason · 2020-09-18T06:49:12+00:00

Next time don't bother with the sissy whining and just dump her already, it's not worth your time to complain to someone who's already cheated on you. It doesn't sound like you manned up, it sounds like you let your emotions slip and get the best of you. This happens to me too and I'm working on this as well, but next time recognize the value in yourself and what you have. Clearly that relationship is wrong for you and her, so just end it.

How I end things: "listen, this isn't for me, I'm not happy in this relationship, goodbye"

Boom. Over.

Obviously its up to you, but think about it bro.

Therocksays2020 · 2020-09-18T02:12:27+00:00

Way to stand up for yourself. You’re a smart guy

BurzacoMan · 2020-09-18T03:16:10+00:00

You did absolutely good

Finallyonreddit23 · 2020-09-18T02:06:14+00:00

Fuck her don’t listen to her bullshit man goodluck! I

InternationalBorder9 · 2020-09-18T05:31:52+00:00

Hate to say it and don't want to be negative but seems like she has completely checked out from the relationship.

"I know long distance is hard but this is bs and I’m not trying to hold up a two person relationship by myself. She betrayed me and I feel like I’m the one in the wrong and I’ve been walking on egg shells trying not to ruin the relationship when I’ve done nothing but tried to keep it healthy."

Sounds like you are fighting to keep things going and she in turn is off flirting with other guys. If thats what you found out about I wonder what else you don't know about.

I went through something very similar, these are not the actions of someone who loves and respects you.

Good for you for sticking up for yourself though

rhofire · 2020-09-18T11:13:44+00:00

Here is the harsh truth: she's not interested in you.

Your best bet is to walk away. If you stay, just accept that she doesn't want you. Also, ask yourself why you need her so much.

You sound like you don't have any experience with women. You need to sort that out.

IBeSomebooty · 2020-09-18T14:13:01+00:00

you dont live a long life man, live a happy one. it's sad to be lonely, but you don't NEED a relationship, you want love, but don't need it. It's addicting, you need to be happy is what you want. but you don't have to let it ruin you.

Visualize_ · 2020-09-18T04:19:18+00:00

How long have you been in a relationship with this girl? If it isn't that serious I would just consider breaking up considering it's long distance and that makes it much harder to rekindle some spark and maybe it's just better for both parties. If this was a long term relationship, then I think you did a really good job standing up for yourself and hopefully she comes to her senses and cuts out her bullshit

MrSlippery92 · 2020-09-18T05:43:16+00:00

According to another comment you’re in an arranged marriage?

I don’t think this belongs in r/seduction man. Check out r/relationshipadvice.

Calling out a girl for shit in a sarcastic way is okay but blowing up at a woman is a massive sign of insecurity & shows you have little self-control. If you need to tell her something, you have to calmly bring it up, explain what you noticed, how it made you feel, and ask what she thinks about her behavior. Don’t act threatening or ragey. Just discuss it calmly.

Women aren’t transactional. You can’t do X and expect Y in return. If she’s flirting with other men it means there’s trouble in your relationship. This is normally the honeymoon phase of the relationship where everything should be going smoothly. If you’re having cheating issues this early, she’ll likely do it forever.

Best advice: Break up. Move on. You’re probably a great guy and can find other women who will be loyal and who you don’t have to ask for affection. Don’t be afraid of being single. Take a risk. Go for it. When you find a special someone, it’ll all be worth it.

Title	Finally manned up
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Upvotes	16
Comments	31
Date	September 18, 2020 1:25 AM UTC (5 years ago)
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