Find confidence after a breakup

L2diy · 2019-01-28T17:47:02+00:00

Confidence is a reflection of how you feel about yourself. Go out and go to the gym, get in shape, eat healthy.

Do more for yourself, pick up a productive hobby. Once you are feeling better about yourself, you can focus on picking up girls.

A big problem people make is trying to fill a void in their lives by picking up girls. Girls see through that. Before you go to pick up girls think about what you can offer, if you don’t think you can offer much, then keep working on yourself.

KindlyVivid · 2019-01-28T18:00:14+00:00

"I feel like a complete loser right now."

You're not brother. You're just rearranging the pieces of your life now, and you might feel a bit lost at first.

I know it hurts right now, but you have an opportunity to get in touch with your own identity again. After a few months time, you will have a stronger sense of self, which is crucial to pick up and social interaction in general. Stay diligent as best as you can. Focus on your studies and health. Sharpen your mind. Revive old hobbies and explore new interests. Get in touch with friends, old and new.

I'm about 6 months post breakup from a 4 year relationship myself, and am really finding my groove. Stay strong my man.

pqowie313 · 2019-01-28T19:03:39+00:00

Some people gain confidence from "getting out there", regardless of how emotionally wounded they may be. Most people, however, need a bit of time to heal before they'll be ready, and attempting to force yourself will only make you feel worse. However, everybody reaches a point where they're ready to move on, and once you're there, you don't want to delay it. The trick is figuring out hen you're at that point. For me, after my last breakup, I knew I was there when I was waking up every morning with energy, I was just not satisfied by staying in and playing video games or watching Netflix. I could just feel that I needed to get out there, meet some new people, and perhaps get laid. The journey there involved me recognizing which people in my life I actually needed, and cutting off the ones I didn't, getting back on track at the gym, and tuning up my wardrobe.

TL;DR: Don't force yourself, you'll know you're ready because you'll really be craving some excitement, not just somebody to use as a flesh light to fill the void that your ex left.

Subkist · 2019-01-28T19:24:29+00:00

Dude if you're in clinicals you're about to be a doctor, you've only got up to go from there

Illegalparker42 · 2019-01-28T19:51:10+00:00

I wish there was a quick fix but there is not. That "loser" feeling will linger but going and getting pussy is probably the worse thing you can possibly do. Plus you probably won't be finding good quality women right off the bat and low quality women are a waste of time and won't fill any void. Work on yourself, find some hobbies you genuinely enjoy and throw yourself into them. That way those hobbies are going to put you around like minded people and that usaully helps. Good luck man

UrbanDevice · 2019-01-28T18:14:22+00:00

Do stuff with friends, that will help you recover :)

mysexyrexy · 2019-01-29T04:34:40+00:00

100%. You need to fall in love with yourself before you can get someone else to love you bro. If you go out to try and meet a new bae you could take rejection seriously. Honestly and one thing from my personal experience I met two great women after my break up and I felt literally nothing for them due to my break up. Felt like two wasted opportunities for me and her.

Heal properly and love naturally.

_EntireHistoryOfYou · 2019-01-28T18:15:30+00:00

Why did she dump you?

Title	Find confidence after a breakup
Author	Doctor_Diddlez
Upvotes	5
Comments	13
Date	January 28, 2019 5:11 PM UTC (7 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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