First Cold Approach!

inspiredhippo · 2019-03-30T09:44:38+00:00

Good job! Keep going

daemon86 · 2019-03-30T10:41:07+00:00

Good one, it's easier if you find a reason to talk to them, like if you go to some event or if they wear a band shirt or something

SimpleYetClean · 2019-03-30T10:40:18+00:00

Great job man!

Ts00sT · 2019-03-30T13:31:05+00:00

Holy Cow this subreddit is positive! Ya’ll hav inspired me 🤩

metal_fist29 · 2019-03-30T11:54:13+00:00

Why’d you run? You can walk off. It’s not like you were shoplifting.

TheJoeyJoeJoe · 2019-03-30T12:37:42+00:00

The start of an epic journey.

Post here again when you do your first conversation

zqrt · 2019-03-30T14:19:28+00:00

I’m in the same situation as you, except I went to a baseball game. I was with friends who encouraged me like no one ever has before. I couldn’t pay a professional motivational speaker to encourage me as much as they did, but I ended up just saying “Hey you see that guy over there (my friend), he thinks you’re really cute.” She immediately said “I have a boyfriend.”

I took this approach because it is a progression to simply talking to them showing my interest. Guys I’m at level 0 with women, so this was a HUGE success.

Take small steps OP. Another place you could start is simply compliment them as you’re walking, “Hey, I like you’re hat.” It’s much less pressure as “Hey, hows your night going?”

Best of luck out there my man!

krazyken15 · 2019-03-30T11:16:51+00:00

Hell yeah!! Great job dude!! Remember man baby steps, you got this!

RecalcitrantRD · 2019-03-30T11:20:12+00:00

Good job! And I am glad you can see the humor in it and enjoy yourself! Make it self amusing and keep going!

Eastcoastconnie · 2019-03-30T16:54:47+00:00

Gaming by yourself is hard but you took the first step.

My advice to you is seek more casual situations to meet ladies. Daygaming helped me tremendously with my overall confidence because

1.) You’re more likely to be sober 2.) there’s more events that don’t revolve around drinking/hooking up 3.) different settings and more time to escalate if you’re successful.

Try and find some events around you to meet people in a group setting and practice conversing

BaldrickSodoff99 · 2019-03-30T11:40:08+00:00

Good job, you're on the right path!

NSOLOGIST · 2019-03-30T21:06:50+00:00

Malls can be amazing places for this. I was in one in a major city, and I asked out 10 in a couple hours. All shot me down, but it was fun. I was using the rushed approach of something like, "Hey I'm in a hurry right now, but you caight my eye and so I wanted to say hey and that we should grab a drink sometime if your situation allows." It was something like that. Either way, just capitalize on your momentum and let it all hang out. I asked a chick out at the bank the other day because she kept lookin'. "Do I know you from somewhere? " I said. "Maybe, I'm not sure." "Well either way we should hang out sometime if you're free." "I would love to but I have a man and a family and all that." Etc. Go get after it bro. And keep in mind that it doesn't need to be because you were going out just to approach. You can just make a rule that you'll approach one person who catches your eye whenever out doing errands, getting coffee or going to the grocery store. Keep up the good personal development.

nikdreamc · 2019-03-30T12:48:59+00:00

Just say hi then say something like i love ur outfit ask for name say that u like her name ble ble ble

A_solo_tripper · 2019-03-30T13:23:25+00:00

Make sure to write up field reports.

shinn497 · 2019-03-30T16:39:20+00:00

lol this is literally still me and i have been trying pickup for 10 years. But hey never quit you know.

DustinCadman1 · 2019-03-30T21:44:11+00:00

Lmao that's sick man. Stick around next time though. You have nothing to lose either way. There's so much power in not give a shit and having nothing to lose. She might have liked you.

run_fast-eat_ass · 2019-03-30T12:31:15+00:00

Well done! What you've got to do next is get the conversation flowing a bit more; I'd try a more engaging question.

I like to open with something like:

"Hey, I like your insert clothing or accessory! Did you get it just for tonight?"

If her response is dead, maybe try once more before moving on.

devils_taste · 2019-03-30T12:58:45+00:00

Awesome buddy, I call that fu*ing progression! Going from nothing to something, now you can only go forward! Keep it up!

romspace12 · 2019-03-30T13:36:56+00:00

Awesome man cheers !

MigBC · 2019-03-30T12:24:40+00:00

Keep it up and hopefully with experience you’ll knock it out the park

EverettSherlock · 2019-03-30T14:33:23+00:00

First steps, the hardest man, you did great!

ahmedelsallam121 · 2019-03-30T14:34:55+00:00

Good work bro, I hope you keep going

FBS998 · 2019-03-30T15:39:33+00:00

Would be awkward doing that in my small hometown haha gj

marcin_rajski · 2019-03-30T15:40:39+00:00

Great job!!

targonils · 2019-03-30T17:14:08+00:00

Hey bro keep it up. The first step is definately the hardest. Next time maybe try and hold a conversation for a short while.

CollaterLDamage · 2019-03-30T22:58:24+00:00

Theres also conversational momentum.

Say hi to regular strangers, male or female. not because you want to hit on them or anything, just to break the silence. when you do go to talk to someone you find attractive, it should come easier.

cu_dad · 2019-03-30T23:11:12+00:00

Try day time for learning how to cold open. Most females at night at a club will just assume you want to hit on them and will most likely block you off. During the day, they let their guard down and are more likely to converse with a stranger. Get your confidence up first before you start diving into the club scene to talk to women.

kyzen142 · 2019-03-30T23:31:55+00:00

Haha good start make sure to always state you intent. Tell her why u approached her.

dryo · 2019-03-31T01:09:12+00:00

YEEAAAAAH MAN! lawl. do it again! until you can keep a lenghty conversation going.

olpdragon · 2019-03-31T01:42:21+00:00

Awesome dude! It only gets easier. Eventually it will only take you 30 minutes of pacing around, haha, but no seriously, it will get easier, and you will get better. Moreso, you will get better control of your nerves.

KindnessWins · 2019-03-31T04:52:32+00:00

Don't ever blame yourself for any of this. All your fears and anxieties are due to the chemicals in your brain. Even your fear of starting a new business or standing out of the crowd. All of it is raw chemistry. Let's see how "nervous" you are 1hr after 30mg of dexadrine.

Though to be honest you wouldn't give a shit about making money or picking up women. You would feel utterly and totally complete. And wouldn't give a shit what people think.

So why pick up women or start your own business if you are now in a state of total enlightenment? To satisfy the old u. Nothing more. And to simply gain that experience to help others.

So what's it like being on 30mg of dexadrine? Imagine facing the entire world 24/7 in a state of total love, joy, drive and excitement with Zero fear to match.

Start with two 5mg tablets. For two weeks. Not the spansules the tablets. Take Saturday Sunday off.

Then take 30mg. Sit down in a meditative state, practice the Wim Hof breathing technique for a few minutes. Then go into the state of meditation. When u feel you're complete, go out and see what happens.

ifkdurgf · 2019-03-31T05:04:27+00:00

You: howz your night going? Girl : good ( looks at her phone ) You: Runs away. Girl: Looks around. No one.... ( Freaks out, unable to sleep at night )

Dprofessionalgy · 2019-03-31T05:06:57+00:00

That’s cool man! Atleast you tried! There are people who don’t even try! Note down any and all mistakes you are doing and approach like fuck. Each and every time you’ll find something missing and at the end of the day you’ll be at a better standpoint! Keep it up and don’t loose the momentum. Try complementing random people before you approach, this will reduce the approach anxiety. Also don’t sound needy. Abundance is what should reflect/vibe from your body. GG bro!

Slut_Slayer9000 · 2019-04-01T01:17:37+00:00

Stop thinking and just approach. Guys get WAY to into their head, if you honestly have to think about approaching a girl before doing it its already been to long. Strike while the iron is hot, when to see a girl you like just go talk to her because thats the natural thing to do. The more you think about it the worse it will go and the more unnatural it will be. My most successful approaches are when I just see a girl I'm genuinely attracted too having fun that I want to be apart of, and I just instantly go up and start vibing, I don't think about what to say I just act NATURALLY. If its bar or club ramp up the kino quickly so she knows WHY you are talking to her, if she accepts the kino and is staring into your eyes she wants to makeout. Once you start making out, start feeling out the logistics, if they are good pull. That's why I recommend ideal gaming hours are 12-2. Those are acceptable times for women to be ok with calling it a night, perfect pulling hours, meanwhile you're fresh as fuck and on point as you just started, use this to your advantage.

IF you're going out solo, go to bigger venues with dancing/music. The WORST thing to do when going out alone for the first few times is going to small secluded intimate places, avoid those, and go to places where you can get "lost" in the mix of everything going on, this will make you way less insecure about being alone.

IloveOWgames · 2019-03-30T12:45:08+00:00

drink some wine ! :V

ParmeetSidhu · 2019-03-30T16:38:43+00:00

How old are you?

Title	First Cold Approach!
Author	Nooobient
Upvotes	384
Comments	48
Date	March 30, 2019 9:19 AM UTC (7 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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