first date: activity vs going out for drinks?

quinnmcd · 2019-11-04T02:18:33+00:00

Doing activities take a lot of pressure from both of you. Instead of searching for conversation topics you just focus on having fun. Once I stopped talking girls out to eat on the first and started doing activities, I got more second dates. These types of dates tend to be less awkward and your heart is racing because of the activity and not nervousness. I always highly recommend an arcade date over the movies or coffee.

WeakEmu8 · 2019-11-04T02:08:53+00:00

Axe throwing

Atriev · 2019-11-04T03:48:38+00:00

I actually just enjoy coffee but I’m primarily a daygamer.

Xazax310 · 2019-11-04T19:58:24+00:00

I think a lot of people misunderstand that doing an activity together, even something very simple, builds togetherness. Dinner dates are rough if you two are meeting for the first time face to face each other. I'm introverted and its hard to find something to talk about in that awkward silence.

Dates I've been on have been

Activity

Dinner/lunch

(walk around if time permits)

Depending on the mood of the girl bring them back or setup a second date. If your doing good SHE should ASK YOU for the second date.

desertdwell12 · 2019-11-04T02:13:45+00:00

Oh my gosh, I would love that!! Please do it.

13enning21 · 2019-11-04T17:43:12+00:00

I like doing an activity like bowling, mini golf, billiards, usually competitive things. But if the girl is not social awkward and well adjusted she should be able to handle herself on a dinner date or drinks and keep a conversation.

OlympusSquared · 2019-11-05T01:17:38+00:00

I'd leave activities for at least after you have crossed the intimacy line (could be sex, could be passionate make out, depending on the girl and situation). Cross the physical threshold and make sure you're turning her on.

If anything, going for a walk in a place like a park is about as much of an activity as you should shoot for on a 1st date. The attraction and comfort should be built through conversation and body language, thus bowling would be a distraction to this.

2019-11-04T19:19:07+00:00

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Drshoes8 · 2019-11-04T02:17:54+00:00

It's cliche but generally I like going to the movies. It's probably the easiest to get a kiss or a little foreplay going besides going out for drinks. Axe throwing sounds cool but idk if a girl would be in to that, but to be fair this my first time hearing of some axe throwing activity.

Title	first date: activity vs going out for drinks?
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Date	November 4, 2019 2:05 AM UTC (6 years ago)
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