First date advice?

redditisawesomeinla · 2015-04-20T20:02:38+00:00

I take chicks to the beach. We walk the boardwalk. What's important is to take her somewhere YOU WANT TO GO. I used to meet chicks for a drink at the bar and had good success but it was boring to me.

I much more enjoy walking near the beach as we can talk/people watch/enjoy the sun.

ratisse · 2015-04-20T20:15:02+00:00

There are a bunch of factors to think about when planning these. I hope that before meeting up with her your interaction in person and via the phone/text went fantastic. Having a fantastic first interaction alone will cut down on the number of women flaking on you. I’m going to go over a couple things in relation to this.

 Have beer/liquor already at your place. Food is nice too

 Have a game plan where you structure your dates

 Have your date meet you for some activity that is close to your house. Five minutes preferably

The closer the place, the easier it will be to bounce them back. If distance is the issue, try for car sex.

When I was living in Orlando, I was getting plenty of phone numbers.

Realistically too many for me to handle so what I did was I would setup a date with anywhere between 1-3 women on a given day in 2 hour blocks.

The reason for staggering these was to be time efficient. I would setup girl A for the 5 to 7pm block. Then girl B for the 7:30 to 9:30pm block and finally girl C for the 10-12pm block.

I’d invite them all to the same pool hall.

The reason for this was to build comfort during that time and get to know each other to see if the vibe was right.

I would have some of the latest movies that were still in theaters downloaded on my computer in my room at home.

I would spend the first hour just vibing, teasing, qualifying, and sexually escalating lightly.

At about the hour mark I would ask if she had seen “XYZ” movie (which was on my computer). If she said no, I’d ask her if she wants to grab a six-pack, pizza and watch it.

Girls would come back to my house if I did my job right.

Immediately on arrival after leading her to my house, I’d bring her right up to my room. This is where it got fun.

I’d put the movie on and start coming onto her.

If by the 2 hour marker I got laid or it looked like it might happen, I’d excuse myself to the bathroom and text the next date and push back our meet time by half an hour.

If I hadn’t been laid by ten minutes to that pushed back time, I’d tell the girl I’m currently with that I had to go meet some friends and would schedule another date.

As soon as she left, I’d hop in my car and go to my next date. From here the cycle continued. This is just an example of what you can do.

Couple of things I want to address.

For a first date, keep it casual. Fuck dinner. Fuck going to a movie theater.

These both have their own problems.

If you go out to dinner there is a problem with the waiter interrupting you, the table being in the way, no privacy and it’s harder to escalate.

If you go to a movie theater, the problem here is you both end up in complete silence for 2 hours instead of being able to get to know each other; very counteractive when seducing a woman.

Pick something you like to do that is also interactive.

It doesn’t matter if it’s bowling, pool, darts, or any of a number of interactive activities. You NEED to be able to socialize and allow your personality to shine.

mrstylishnerd · 2015-04-20T19:46:22+00:00

Don't be a Ted Mosby.

sixsidepentagon · 2015-04-20T22:08:43+00:00

Always be escalating, even if you're not looking for sex

freddymerckx · 2015-04-20T22:52:30+00:00

You should not even consider "success" until the 3rd date. You might not have the patience but if you try too hard to engineer the "success" , chicks pick up on that and will probably kick you to the curb; they know what you are doing. You have to wait until THEY are ready.

_FreeThinker · 2015-04-20T22:53:45+00:00

Best first date idea is:

Grab a drink at a bar with dim lights and mild music in the background, very romantic settings, and alcohol will act as a catalyst for you guys to open yourself up more and may be even make you more braver to break the touch barrier.
Of course it depends on your kind of personality though, what if one of you guys don't drink or don't like bars... Well other very good ideas are coffee, hiking, pool, bowling, etc.

The main goal is to not make it too complicated and uptight as a dinner, or too detached like a movie or something. You need to have something to do, as well as enough time to actually hold conversations. Compliment her during the date, this is very fucking important. You're just being honest if you like her, and if you don't like her then you shouldn't be worried about the date not going well.

At the end of the date, always walk her to her car. This gives you an opportunity to grab her hand while walking, and may be even stop her to give a compliment or saying that was a pleasant time and kiss her as well if things go right. If you miss out on the walk, you can mentally prepare yourself during the walk to kiss her after that goodbye hug! ;) Best of luck, my friend!

nicechallenge · 2015-04-21T04:57:09+00:00

Kino always escalate and be relaxed trust me you don't want to get back to your home and feel like a pussy hahaj

Title	First date advice?
Author	stankydanky7
Upvotes	20
Comments	19
Date	April 20, 2015 6:21 PM UTC (11 years ago)
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