First date convo

KingTrey7 · 2024-07-06T03:51:20+00:00

I think you would find it more helpful if you approach the first date thinking less specifically about what you want to say and more about how you can make it enjoyable for both of you. In my experience you can do this either by getting her to tell you who she is in a lighthearted, fun way, or you can get her to connect with you on something you find so enjoyable that she gets absorbed into your vibe. An important thing you will have to do is listen to her and read what you can about her. If you’re going to ask her one of those normal small talk questions put a more interesting spin on it, and playfully comment on her answers. Whenever possible, ask/talk about things a little outside the box. Don’t linger on subjects that aren’t clearly enjoyable for both of you, and try to connect. Use whatever’s going on in the current scene or comment about what she’s doing in the moment if you’re having trouble.

For me I often end up talking about music, media, and interesting trips events going on. But you have to make it fun, compliment things about her that aren’t raw physical features like what she’s wearing, her voice, how she thinks about something.

Ground rules I go by are too make sure to maintain eye contact, make sure that she KNOWS that I’m into her (but just do enough so there’s tension don’t overdo it), take the lead, take risks in escalating physically and/or conversationally, and be in the moment. Avoid saying anything overtly sexual until she does first or she responds well to an innuendo or hint at it. Finally, go in with no expectations, and especially no expectations of hooking up the first date; go with the flow.

DaygameCode · 2024-07-06T03:10:14+00:00

Mistake: “I try avoid showing i’m into her in a date” Yeah, that’s the kind of attitude that gets you no second dates or gets you friendzoned.

You are in a date, you are not there to pretend that you don’t like the girl when you actually do or to act like she ain’t even worth your time for a date.

You are there to make something happen, a kiss or sex. That requires flirting which is the opposite of your current attitude.

cemj86 · 2024-07-06T08:04:59+00:00

Listen! Always bring the conversation back to her. Women love to express themselves so be the guy who allows them to talk about their favorite subject

AdditionalStorm5639 · 2024-07-06T03:56:38+00:00

Here are some of my fun to go conversation starters:

What’s your death row meal ? Do you believe in ghosts? What podcasts do you listen to ? Favorite music rn? Favorite conspiracy theory ? If you could have front row seats to any musical artist for life what would you choose ?

burncushlikewood · 2024-07-06T05:39:54+00:00

Sounds cliche but just be yourself, ask her questions, relax and enjoy yourself, get to know her as a person, get inside her head and make her fall in love with you. Yes her looks lured you in, but her personality is what will make you stay. be calm and confident, give her space, and don't be scared to touch her, although you're asking a question on conversation remember that 70% of communication is non verbal, your body language is extremely important, keep your posture, make eye contact, mirror her movements

Wing_Inevitable · 2024-07-06T12:48:05+00:00

What do you have success with talking about on the first date?

I usually talk about “fish sticks” or “corn bread” - yea I know it shows how fat I was before.

What things do you avoid?

Acting like an Aloof dick, being an imbecile, having a boring interaction , try hard , aggressive or egger .

Everything else is small shit - which isn’t and won’t end chancess.

I try avoid showing that I’m too into her I think it comes off cold.

Aaaa the dumbest thing in game. Whom ever invented this deserves to be burned on the stake.

And ground rules you try?

Yea :

1) act normally

2) keep moving things forward. Don’t get stuck at non sexual flirting (I know it is the most fun - still things need to keep moving)

3) don’t be a dick for no reason

4) avoid beating her over the head with your opinions.

You can disagree on something. You won’t convince her you are correct.

5) Stop acting aloof - It is just stupid. Be as in to her as you currently are .

Act how you feel.

6) don’t be egger (jump steps) or aggressive.

P37RO · 2024-07-07T04:33:56+00:00

First couple dates I avoid making it seem like an interview. I’ll leave a first date learning basically nothing about her yet we’ve both had a great time.

epimpstyle · 2024-07-07T11:36:46+00:00

You can talk about anything, it is funny how you try to limit your topic. Will you feel better if I tell you to talk about X, Y and Z? Be positive to give her a nice vibe and don't complain about anything.

TonyDCoaching · 2024-07-06T02:35:05+00:00

Always be positive. Avoid negative topics like boring jobs, shitty weather. Make it fun, interesting, tell stories, ask deeper questions. Learning how to talk on a date can take a lot of practice, and study. I have a free course in my skool community with two hours of content covering every seduction verbal game technique you can think of from push pull, sex talk, cold reading, and more. It's called "Conversation Genius." You can find it in the classroom. https://www.skool.com/absolute-ability-8668/about

2024-07-06T02:33:11+00:00

doenst rally matter what u talk about a chad who likes like salludon could say anything and she will want to fuck him

VrilHunter · 2024-07-06T18:57:06+00:00

Make her talk about herself. Ask her stuff nobody would want to know.
And make her feel listened instead of just waiting for your turn to talk.

People talk a lot but hardly anyone feels heard. When you can do it genuinely, it makes you stand out. It makes the other person like themselves and eventually they relate that feeling of happiness and acknowledgement to your presence.

A big part of seduction is just to make people feel good about themselves when they are in your presence. And a big part of communication is non verbal.

Im sure there are many ways for you to do this. Best of luck.

TLDR : So, basically take a fucking interest in her like a man.

Title	First date convo
Author	david-lee-roth-
Upvotes	6
Comments	11
Date	July 6, 2024 2:29 AM UTC (2 years ago)
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