I’m (28) super attracted to this woman (30) at work. She’s been giving me all the body language that would say she’s into me. Eye contact, fixing hair, blushing, laughing at my jokes, walks by and touches my arm, comes up and plays patty cake with my hands.

About 2 weeks ago we were talking about past relationships and I decided to ask her on a date and let her know I was into her (was that to soon? Is she getting cold feet or buyer’s remorse?) she said she didn’t want to go on a date because she doesn’t want to date anyone in the same department. I understand that and I accepted the rejection I just told her I was a little disappointed. Then we went out with her friend group the weekend before last and I was spitting decent game with her friends and giving her the cold shoulder and she said to her friends “I wanna know, I feel left out.” Which is exactly what I wanted to do. Then my friend older (45) is a super flirt woman and ended up kissing me later that night in front of woman (30). Which I was not mad about. Then woman (30) says she doesn’t remember the rest of the evening after we location hopped, before the kiss.

Sexual tension is still building between me and my crush but it has plateaued into something more platonic, which just makes me feel a little disappointed and annoyed.

What’s y’all’s advice?