Okay, 23, never been in a serious relationship before. I have nailed approaching strangers, making good friends with them and to an extent teasing/dating too. Sticky point right now is : Never had that connection wherein the girl (even a guy friend for that matter) is asking ME about my day or stuff. It's just me providing a fun time, and it isn't even that I'm not an open book. I'm vulnerable, have a somewhat air of mystery, good looking etc.

But yes, every girl I meet whom I like I somehow have this sinking feeling I feel when I hear about her having a past experience with other dudes. I know it's scarcity/neediness and I will have to create an abundance of women before everything else, but it still makes me feel insecure.

The dudes these girls have been with have had past relationships. And these girls have obsessed over them, liked them and asked them about their day/called every day just to check what's up etc. NEVER happened to me, so I'm kinda insecure about the same.

So to become advanced in making emotional connections when you already are somewhat confident with women: How do I enter her life in a way that she wants to be in mine?

I've had this experience a week back: Amazing girl I've known for 2 years, a regular meet that turned into a date. We connected so well it scared me. Same thinking, same types of thoughts, same.kinds of relationship goals- but yes no calls or texts from her later. I thought if she doesn't care enough, why should I either; but to lose a girl like this whom I so deeply connect with (Oh and I also told her I follow pick up stuff and make notes on RSD vids and shit-her reaction wasn't that pretty) was fucking hard.

How to ensure I actually get someone like this in my life as a potential relationship candidate and not just a 'nice friend who thinks just like me'?