I'm 29 and only started dating a couple years ago. Broke a 5-year dry patch. I improved a lot from reading and applying what I read here, and landed myself in a couple of relationship. The first one I broke off after 6 months because she was 33 and wanted a family.

I then went onto sleep with a few other women and ended up sleeping with a gorgeous latin woman within an hour and a half of knowing each other. This wouldn't even be worth mentioning, apart from the fact that I have been in a relationship with her for 6 months.

Obviously, the first problem is about how easy I got into bed with her. She shown almost zero resistance. Problem is, she is now falling in love with me and on her best behaviour. She has done NOTHING to make me question her fidelity. Cooks for me, shows me a lot of affection, not once turned me down or sex or said she was tired. She is into me, but I am too damn suspicious.

Along with not being able to trust a woman (Yes, I have been reading the red/purple/blue stuff/crap), I feel I am in a position where I want to sleep with other women.

I enjoy the companionship and sex of a relationship, but beyond that, I'm quite happy to be chasing and sleeping with different kinds of women. This has led to some boredom in the bedroom on my part (and likely hers because of it) and has started to affect our sex life.

I feel like we've been cursed with this biological urge to spread our seeds while being lured into a false sense of security in a relationship. I'm finding it extremely difficult to reconcile in my head. Is sexual monogamy something I will get used to as I age and stop trying to hump everything that moves?

Would appreciate ANY insights.