How do I overcome this feeling I have when I see beautiful women?

novaksnow · 2015-07-13T13:43:39+00:00

You don't overcome that feeling, you embrace it, and you embrace it with a calm, cool, collected confidence. When you fully embrace it, it's a motivating thing. You think about fucking her, you just wanna approach. ON the contrary, if you don't let it flow through you unconflicted, it can become an awkward thing.

You have to give less of a fuck. Be a little self centered in your thinking here. Imagine two sides of your brain, A and B (A is the good guy here).

A: Damn, she's nice, that ass, mm. Start walking toward her... B: NO. I have no proof this can go right, I've never pulled... A: Who gives a flying fuck. I like what I like, I'll do what I wanna do. (Middle finger). Now back to her...

You need force side A. Go get what you want because you want it.

Also, try breathing deep and utterly blanking your mind, then checking her out. This should emphasize lust and minimize thoughts of self doubt.

cakemuncher · 2015-07-13T13:37:15+00:00

Practice.

Go out to bars 3 times a week even if you hate them. Follow a routine from a known pro.

Edit: Recently I found this series of articles which I thought are pretty good. It will help you through all of it. Follow it to the tee. http://www.goodlookingloser.com/entry/how-to-go-out-alone/how-to-go-out-alone-to-bars-part-3

grass_cutter · 2015-07-13T19:15:59+00:00

Not very helpful, but this will go away once you have sex with one ... at least at a level you thought unattainable.

Turns out they're just horny beings too, and well ... you don't need to be Brad Pitt exactly ... just the right combination of your best self, and seizing many opportunities, and it will happen.

Once you bag one, you feel ... hmm, I got it before, what the hell, I deserve this ... lol

The_Fat_Lannister · 2015-07-13T18:42:14+00:00

The advice I am about to say, in a short, concise sentence, is not meant to instill any accusation of mysogeny or belittle the OP. Just throwing that out there before the actual advice.

Don't see beautiful women as women. See them as people. That isn't to say that you should see her as better - most guys place women on pedestals, the height of which is determined on her physical beauty. Instead of thinking with your cock, bring her down to your level. 'She isn't a beautiful woman. She's just someone living her regular life, who may or may not be looking for someone to share part of it with.'

Once you stop placing women on pedestals, and start just seeing them as regular, ordinary people, the task of approaching them seems a lot easier. ALSO, don't go out with the hopes of seducing women. GO out with the hopes of making friends, both with girls and with guys. Who knows, some guy you meet at a bar could become your best friend in a few months time.

In my third-hand experience, women are much more comfortable opening themselves up to someone they know (i.e. friends, or friends of friends) than some guy they just met (especially at a bar, unless all they are looking for is just meaningless, mindless fun, but that's a different can of worms.) Also, they're instinctively attracted to fun guys, guys who command a social situation, and guys who are comfortable just talking to people. All of the above shows confidence, specifically self-confidence, and confidence, above all else, is extremely attractive to women.

RickyRockyDude · 2015-07-13T19:30:47+00:00

Don't expect so much of yourself at first. Either think that your only goal and criteria is going up and saying something (no matter what), or that you just want to talk / have a friendly conversation. If you believe that you have to seduce girls before you even dare to speak to them you'll never be brave enough to open. Accept that great improvements take time, and take this journey gradually.

P.S: After doing this for a while you can of course start focusing more on the seduction part.

-Jacob

Kubi74 · 2015-07-13T14:25:10+00:00

It's her job to decide whether she wants to go out or not, don't do her job for her.

Dude honestly, most super cute girls are really nice. and they are just human like you and me.

I know where you are coming from though, I grew up in a muslim shithole with no sisters, so my experience with girls, let alone hot girls was very limited and I would get terrified when I see a hot girl.

Practice, it gets easier everytime. When you see a cutie working somewhere go talk to her, just bullshit, they are normally happy to waste a few minutes with you instead of working (unless they are busy)

Most guys will have the same feeling as you when they see a hot girl, but guess who stands out to her? the guy who hides from her terrified, or the 5% that have the balls to go talk to her.

GL to you, dress well and keep your posture straight.

smoochie100 · 2015-07-13T22:11:57+00:00

I think the feeling is normal. It becomes less once you score a hot one for the first time, because then you know you can do it. But your problem seems to be that you take the game too serious. I have far more success if I approach a girl from the perspective "I want to meet nice new people that contribute to my life. If a sexual encounter comes out of it, great! If not, then not, a new acquaintance is great as well." that takes out the pressure to score because your intention was not to score but to meet someone new. And then you don't give a fuck if you get rejected.

oopssorrydaddy · 2015-07-13T20:55:46+00:00

Imagine her pooping

Psychedelic_Leg · 2015-07-15T22:12:51+00:00

Jman92024 · 2015-07-13T16:51:30+00:00

My best friend taught me this.

Think of them like they're ugly and they annoy you.

Don't actually treat them this way, but if you think of them like they are ugly and they annoy you then it brings them down to your level.

Title	How do I overcome this feeling I have when I see beautiful women?
Author	Psychocist
Upvotes	58
Comments	30
Date	July 13, 2015 11:01 AM UTC (11 years ago)
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