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[–]Jordan-Wolf 60 points61 points62 points 11 years ago (9 children) | Copy Link
Stop asking her to come inside your place, stop trying to convince her to stay. Girls know what you're up too. Girls want to keep going, they just don't want to verbally agree or admit that they want to sleep with you, go inside, wtv. It makes them feel like a slut. So... next time just grab her hand and say "Come" and pull her into your house and continue to comand her to do things and not ask. "Let me show you this", "Here take a drink","Come see my xxx collection" Stop asking for permission, she will let you know if she really doesent want to do something.
If you want to achieve greatness, stop asking for permission
[–]BlazingGrace 14 points15 points16 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
So true. Asking permission makes things feel forced and awkward. Just let it happen.
[–]hostergaard 5 points6 points7 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Exactly what I was gonna write too. Never ask, girls are gonna say no because girls don't wan't to admit they wan't sex. Just lead and she will follow.
Sometimes I don't even have an excuse or say anything, I just take a walk with them and then naturally end up at my home since I live close to a bar and club area.
[–]Ski_Desperado 2 points3 points4 points 11 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Agree with the first half but I feel really uncomfortable with the second. Assuming "girls want to keep it going" and pulling her into your house with the soul intentions of having sex (after she says she needs to go home) is what I consider non-consensual, flirting with rape even. Treat her like a woman, like a human. Respect what she says and don't act desperate. If she wants to leave, let her go without a fuss. (think the band Cake -"let me go and I will want you more" is the lyric that comes to mind) That'll show her you're independent and you're "happiness" isn't dependent on her staying or going.
[–]pbj986 1 point2 points3 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Women are under enormous pressure by society to not come across as easy or slutty. Their words often won't mirror their actual desires in order to keep up this charade. Also, keep in mind some women might enjoy making a man chase after them.
I understand you're saying you don't want to advocate people forcing sex on women. That is understandable and certainly something we all agree on. However, all this guy is saying is to take charge. Take the lead. Just like a woman doesn't want to have to figure out where you are taking her on a first date, they often times want a man to just take charge and not ask repeatedly if what he's doing is ok. If you aren't being forceful then it will be easy enough to understand when she doesn't want to and when enough is enough.
[–]loredbyrawn 1 point2 points3 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I agree with ski_desperado... You people might be right in saying that a woman wants things that society doesn't allow them to have, but how are women ever going to live in a society that respects their desires and wants if men continue not to listen to what they say?
When a woman says something to me, I listen. I respect what she has to say and I want to think that she is being honest. Sometimes you guys get lost in 'the game' and forget that there is a human being on the other side of things, whose only real difference from you is that she happens to have an anatomically female body.
Maybe I'm naive and I think that people can somehow get together by being honest. I'm not the kind of guy that likes to just f-close and be done with it. I like to build longer affairs, so perhaps that is why authenticity is important to me. But really, think about it - is sex so important to you that you are literally just going to ignore her words all the time?
[–]mfunktastic2 points 11 years ago [recovered] | Copy Link
Thanks for the advice. I have thought about it through this lens and I've come to the same conclusion - I need to handle the situation in a way so that in her mind, "it just happened". It seems that this is the only way for a lot of girls to be willing to put out without feeling trashy.
[–]freddy8 0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
That's awesome.
[–]iamthesage 0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Good advice
[–]dudebroth 0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
HEY!!! WANNA SEE MY POKEMON COLLECTION? I'VE GOT A REAL RARE CHARIZARD usually works for me
[–]cmiovino17 points 11 years ago [recovered] (2 children) | Copy Link
Good FR. Honestly, at the point where she was still holding your hand at the very end saying she had to go and you finally gave in and said "Ok"... she wanted you to keep holding her hand, take her inside, in the car, where ever.
That was her LMR kicking in hardcore. It didn't make sense to her rational mind blurting that out, but she had 'teh feelz'.
If you are in NYC next week, make sure you have your logistics worked out that you can stay at her place for the night. Or she can come to yours. Both options would be best.
From there, there should be less resistance because she doesn't have to drive anywhere. There will still be some, like the "I'm not 25 anymore" thing, but that doesn't really matter. She's down.'
Good luck, have fun!
[–]leonce18 4 points5 points6 points 11 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
What is LMR??
[–]SwagLikeCaiIIou 7 points8 points9 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Last minute resistance
[–]LAgayThrowaway -1 points0 points1 point 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Have a drink or two. A bit of alcohol solves this.
[–]tivooo -1 points0 points1 point 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
when making out and it's getting hot and heavy. "I want to fuck you sooo badly. Let's go upstairs" boom
[–]tutsaiga -1 points0 points1 point 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
seems like there wasn't enough escalation.
[+]kweku360 -6 points-5 points-4 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Gud job..maybe you were too gentle asking her..u should said something sexy..then carried her off he feet into her room...game over
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