Went to my local with a few friends. Literally 1 girl in the place. Exotic foreign type. Maybe 40 people overall.

This girl might have had a little too much to drink and was flirty with a few guys.

She made eyes at me a few times and gave me enthusiastic hellos when we’d walk past each other. I reciprocated but I wasn’t really in the mood that night

Eventually a guy locked her in. At one point she was left alone at the bar and I went in to get another drink.

Kind of drunk at this point, she leaned in to say something and got unnecessarily physical so I knew she was up for it. Instinct kicked in and I hold her waist and give it a slight squeeze (like when you’re getting intimate with a girl), which she liked.

Rest of the convo was boring until we figured out that I’m 5 years younger than her, which changed the dynamic completely.

It influenced a very inspired lecture from this drunk girl about how I have to live my life while I can or something.

I quickly realised I was losing my leverage or frame or whatever you want to call it.

I decided to stop her with something like “you’re telling me to constantly drink for the next 5 years?”.. to which she replied “nooo I mean ....”

I realised she was committed to giving me her godly advice so I interrupted her a few more times but this time I spoke Slowerrr and held really strong eye contact.

Quickly the conversation turned into “yeah...?” “yeah...” “you sure...?” “yeah...” but the conversation was all body language at this point. It was all sexual sexual tension just waiting for the climax. I leant in and so did she and... I just got my drink and bounced. Genuinely wasn’t in the mood.

So basically my verbals were complete dogshit, and I was able to substitute a personality for strong eye contact and sexual vibes.

I guess this can work in unique scenarios when a sexually confident girl is attracted to you and you want to cut the bullshit or you’ve just ran out of stuff to say.

I have been struggling with eye contact for the past while dealing with low self esteem, I still find it weird to make too much eye contact with some people when talking.

With girls I started giving more and more eye contact progressively, and I feel like you can gauge attraction to an extent through eye contact.

Having that one reaaallly good exchange got my eye contact so much better. It’s a very very useful tool to have.

I realised it’s one of them things where girls can’t really verbally reject eye contact. If they don’t reciprocate maybe tone it down but using it in the first place has such high potential with no risk.

The more you do it the less weird it feels.

Side note: The guy she was with followed me to the smoking area to brag about how he was gonna bang her, it’s already in motion, he likes her she likes him. I congratulated him. It was a very passive way of telling me to back off. He told me he’d go out with her because of how sexy she is. I told him he’ll have fun having this same conversation over and over with the guys she shows interest in. I feel bad for the guy.