Hi. This happened last night and I'm just now having a chance to write it out. I'm still a new PUA, and I still don't have a great memory for the minutiae of what's happening in a pickup (anybody have any tips for remembering what happens?).

I'm out solo at a few bars/clubs last night. The night is proceeding well, I had made some friends but ditched them to dance for a few minutes. I return to where they were sitting and I see 2 HB9s. I plop down on the couch next to them and introduce myself to one of them.

Then I realize the dudes they're with are not my friends. I immediately stop chatting up the HB9 and start talking to the dudes, apologizing for crashing the party, explaining my confusion, and chatting the guys up and ignoring the HBs. I guess this was a bit beta, but it was no problem because I was clearly more interesting than anything they had going on, and I was hooked fairly quickly. This is a bit I might do again--jumping into a group and talking to an HB, then saying I thought one of the dudes was my buddy. I guess it's not alpha but whatever, it works.

Anyway, I'm touching one of the HB9 while chatting with the dudes. Her friend comes to pull her away, but I sit her back down and she stays another minute. Her friend comes back, I get HB9 by the wrist this time, and she stays a bit longer. Unfortunately, I had to let HB9 go--I was really having a good convo with these guys. HB9 didn't seem thrilled that her friend insisted on taking her away. I can't believe I let an HB9 giving IOIs (complying with my demand to stay for a few minutes while I finish talking with the dudes) leave, but I guess it's part of having an abundance mentality. One of the dudes was super pumped about setting me up with some of his friends (mostly at his prompting) and if they're anything like these HB9s I totally made the right decision continuing my convo with him.

Anyway, I'm talking with these dudes and an HB7 walks up and starts staring at me. I straight up ask the dudes if they know her, they don't. I say hi, she makes a face and leaves after we stare for a few moments. Whatever.

A few minutes later, I notice she's still looking at me. She's drunk, and she makes an obscene gesture (something like pussy eating). I make a dick sucking gesture back. She gets up, disgusted, and walks away.

The dudes are on their way out. I see HB7 sitting alone. I go up. She says that I'm an asshole. I say that we should start over. I say my name, stick my hand out, make eye contact. She hesitates for a second, then smiles and takes my hand. The song changes, and she rushes to dance with her friends. I follow (bit AFC I guess).

The dance floor is mostly empty, so I don't grind up on her. We end up sitting back down with her group of friends. I chat with her friends, ignoring HB7. The friends start to clear out, I sit next to HB7.

She puts her legs on my lap, encouraging me to touch them. I do, trying to remain unreactive even though I am very pumped about this.

The next 30 minutes or so are a blur. A lot of push pull. There's lots of kino--legs, sides, face, hands up the skirt a bit (she was leading them there, she kept talking about how much she loves her legs). I keep going to kiss, slowly, she keeps resisting. I back off, try again. I'm called an asshole repeatedly, usually in response to mild shit tests ("where are you from? Oh, I hate that place") or silence and eye contact. Lots of eye contact. She says her best feature is her eyes, I say it's her ass. She says she likes my pecs. We talk about exercise, she says her favorite exercise is sex. At one point she mumbles something about being horny. But I'm still not getting a k-close, even though she's receptive to kino all the way, and keeps encouraging me to touch her legs.

I'm putting her legs on the ground from my lap, then putting them back on my lap when she complies. Eventually I get a quick kiss. At one point I number close (I send her a text message).

This continues. She claims to not like assholes, even as she keeps calling me one. Eventually her friend comes. They're going. She stands, I stand, and she grabs me and goes for the makeout, tongue and all. We kiss for about 20 seconds. It's good. I end up moving her around a bit. She breaks (I should have). I say "Can I call you" (oops, Beta language). She says "yes".

To some extent, my take away is I didn't mess this up and a few weeks ago I totally would have. On the other hand, I feel like a more skilled man could have f-closed this no problem. My regret is logistics (I'm traveling) mean I have no place to take her.

The next day, I call her and leave a message asking her on a day 2, today (i'm only in town for a few days), to "repay my karmic debt" for being an "asshole". I get this text back pretty promptly: "Hello darling! Haha I loved the msg u left me and really appreciate the sweet gesture, but I don't hav time 2day...gotta pack and get to my friend's place asap :) But ur welcome to make up for up for ur karmic debt wen I get back from [vacation place]?

She had mentioned her vacation the night before. We had also discussed how I'm only in this city every month or two.

I reply "when are you back? lovely, i stay near [city] and i'm only around this week. but i'm around again in late january. lets make a date for friday jan 27"

she replies: "I get back round 9 jan...friday th 27thh sounds great! Hope u njoy th rest of ur wk here and we'll chat again soon then :)"

I reply: "have fun in [vacation place]. i'll contact you in a few weeks"

This is my first text game in a few years. Not sure this is actually going to pan out, but I didn't think she'd reply at all, so I must have done something right.

What's the takeaway? Even if she refuses the kiss, if she doesn't blow you out keep trying. Being called an asshole is maybe not a problem.

I'm mainly confused why an HB would want my hands all over her legs but not be receptive to a k-close? Breath? I don't think it could have been that bad, maybe boozy. Friends watching? But then why the grab at the end? Why so receptive to a theoretical day 2?

But it feels good to do something right, even if it might be mostly luck and not totally screwing things up for myself with an HB that seems to have chosen me. This is my first real k-close since I've joined seddit, so I guess it's something I should be happy about.

Thanks for reading.