[FR] Learned A VERY Important Lesson Tonight

TofuTofu · 2011-04-02T07:19:55+00:00

Don't be so hard on yourself, man. We all have off nights.

I think if you're having trouble with the situational openers, just say "fuck it" and try some new shit out! The worst case is you get rejected which puts you right back where you started anyway.

Just "Hi, how's it going?" ANYTHING is better than NOTHING.

You know all this, though. I'm just trying to remind you so it doesn't happen next time :P

Hang in there, brother!

AnonPsychopath · 2011-04-02T09:36:24+00:00

Compliment girls on their outfits?

"Hey, want to give my friend and I a female opinion on something?"

nycprowl · 2011-04-02T13:51:49+00:00

Don't forget to focus on what you are doing right. You are going out. You talked to that chick in the line for the bathroom.

I think we get a bit of a skewed view here with all the bragging field reports and we think that every night is some incredible story for everyone. People don't tend to post FR when all they have to say is "went to the bar, chatted with one or two girls, went home alone". But that is what happens frequently, at least for me.

Just move forwards and not backwards. Don't let this make you stop going out. Hold your ground and inch forward. Next time talk to 2 girls.

huls · 2011-04-02T17:23:07+00:00

Well I Failed Tonight

If your goal is to learn, and you learned something, then you didn't fail - you succeeded.

ilurkokcupid · 2011-04-02T10:10:09+00:00

I have this same problem. How long have you been trying to get over your AA? I've only been trying for 2 weeks so take my advice with a grain of salt:

Maybe you need to reset your brain a little bit by going back to talking to EVERYONE. IMO, this is easy to practice during the day. Go into a store and chat up the staff. It's their job to be friendly. It's a great warm up.

silencegold · 2011-04-02T18:04:18+00:00

I've noticed when I open with girls in the last few days - there's no need for a classic type of opener.

I just start out with, "Man it sucks with Japan."...it's going to be an instant response from them.

Here's one that happened last night when I was getting gas, it was a HB8 getting gas on the other side of the gas pump.

She unscrewed the gas cap then turned and looked at me when I was getting the towel paper. I mean she stopped and looked at me. She may have thought I was approaching her. But when I turned around to walk off - I could see off the corner of my eye that she was "disappointed". It's a huge IOU that I decided to play off but how to start the talking?

This time, when I was discarding the used paper towel - I walked over there and dropped it in. Looked at her with a pause and said, "man it sucks about Japan."

She stepped forward and said, "I know. Poor people who are over there."

The conversation lead over to where she is from (local) and where her next destination is. She said she was going to go bar hopping. I told her, "I'm new around here and I didn't know there are bars here." She invited me along. But I didn't act beta - I acted alpha with a bit of neg, "Oh you want to get me drunk and drag me home with you?"

We ended up going out together to her place later tonight after #-close.

It's actually the forth time I used Japan as a conversation opener.

Title	[FR] Learned A VERY Important Lesson Tonight
Author	nycprowl
Upvotes	11
Comments	10
Date	April 2, 2011 6:04 AM UTC (15 years ago)
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