I started talking to this girl on okcupid. A 21 year old and roughly a HB7. My okcupid game is very simple. My first message is uncomplicated and usually consists of a random thing in their profile i can relate to and then ask them more about it.

I have a really good response rate with that simple method, roughly 2-3 messages of small talk later i will say something along the lines of "This may be abrupt, but you are fun to talk to. Give me your number so that I can text you instead of relying on okcupid messaging ;)

Very good success rate with that as well. After i do get the number I try to text immediately/within a couple of hours with something playful, my go to first text is "this is the sexy tall handsome intelligent and extremely modest stranger you met online" I do some small talk to build comfort, within 20 texts or so i will ask them what their schedule looks like and plan accordingly.

Anyways on to the story, I set up a date with this girl to meet me for drinks. Not my ideal first date but my options were a little limited as we lived about an hour apart. When i get there she has already gotten a table. Pretty bad start as kino is pretty hard with a table in between the two of you. For some reason i never thought to just say, hey, lets move to the bar. Its not like we HAD to sit at the table. I guess when my initial plans that i have in my head fail i get flustered, need to be more observant and able to adapt to the situation.

Conversation starts and everything is going okay. But only okay because she is a little shy, so I try to make her laugh a bit and run the 5 questions game on her, which is something that i literally do with every girl i go on a date with. It gets her more involved in the conversation so it worked out pretty well like it always does. After about 30 minutes of conversation i try to get her to leave so we can go get some ice cream. I just wanted to get her someplace where i can actually do some kino. Eventually she agrees and we get in my car and head to sonic. Conversation starts getting a little more personal and i find out she just got out of a 3 year relationship (ouch) I start holding her hand after some light kino, and she clutches on which is the strongest IOI she has given me the whole night. She also starts playing with her hair a lot so I use the classic mystery line of "do you want to kiss me?"

If you are not familiar with this technique, the ways that you respond to it as follows. If no, say "I didn't say that you could kiss me, i just wanted to know ;) or something like that, if she gives you a maybe or i dont know, be all suave and say "lets find out" and go in for the kiss. If she says yes obviously just start making out with her.

She responds with maybe and we make out a bit, i make sure to break off the kiss first and we return to talking. I do some push and pull when she starts talking about how disgusting her job is (shes a nurse) i start acting like im afraid to touch her now etc.A Brief awkward silence happens, i say "do you want to know the best way to break an awkward silence?" then i start making out with her again, i try to escalate a bit further by touching her body but she moves my hand away so i back off. I realized i needed to start talking about sex and relied on something seddit taught me last week, I said "I heard cheerleaders were freaks in the bed, is there any truth to that rumor?" Obviously you can replace "cheerleaders" with just about anything. This got her to open up and i find out she hadn't had sex in over 6 months, (her ex stopped having sex with her near the end of their relationship) and that she has also never had a one night stand. Also learned that she was very sexually inexperienced. I do some more push&pull telling her how i would love to be her one night stand but I am not that easy.

We start making out again and she is MUCH more into it, basically forcing her tongue down my throat, i start trying to touch her again but she moves my hand away so i back off again, I am about to call it a night at this point as she doesn't seem to want to do anything past kissing on a first date which is completely OK, i ask her if shes ready to go back as its getting late. She says that shes fine and isn't tired. Which confuses me a bit but I press on and make out some more.

She then awkwardly says to me, "umm, can we go somewhere more private?" It's at this time that i realize that we are still in front of sonic and im a complete idiot. Of course she isn't going to let me get anywhere with all these people around! I get too focused and get tunnel vision i guess. We drive to a dark parking lot and I will let you imagine the rest. As we sit in the backseat putting our clothes back on, i think back to how this would of been completely impossible for me 2 months ago. Thank you to the community for helping me get to this point, and hopefully i can improve my daygame/nightgame and not just my online dating game.

TLDR: Got a girl's number off okcupid, managed to build attraction and setup a date over text. Managed to F-close using the many things seddit has taught me.