Seddit, I think I need some help here. I was busy all weekend with parties, bars, etc. but as far as girls go, got absolutely nowhere. I think it might have to do with me ejecting too early and not closing well. I didn't let AA effect me that much though. Read the bold for the highlights.
Group of 3 girls
I opened a group of 3 girls, I was attracted to two of them (the other not so much, but she was cool.) I wound up talking to the one I wasn't attracted to for a while, and then opened her friends. Her one friend was COMPLETELY hammered, and tried to grind with me. Being completely sober, I just felt wrong grinding with a wasted girl, but I also think my anxiety kicked in (my dance floor game isn't good), and then I sort of blew it when I didn't grind with the girl. How do I get over my dancing anxiety (I love doing it by myself but no idea how with a girl).
Friend Texting
This girl that I know from my volleyball team saw me out the other night, and we exchanged #s. We never really hung before, but she has been flirtatious around me lately, and texting me this weekend about my plans (could be misreading though). For some reason I have a bit of escalation and closing anxiety with her since I know her. I'm seeing her tomorrow for our volleyball game, not sure how to handle.
Girl Who Completely Blew Me Out
I approached a girl, and she had an orbiter. I couldn't tell if they were dating (one of her girl friends told me they weren't, and gave me the green light). We talked a bit, and she gave me the eyes at first, but then she turned back to her orbiter friend. I approached again a little while later, but she completely blew me out this time. Like, brutally rejected. I hate to admit this, but it shook my confidence a bit and I was almost tempted to leave, but fuck that. I'm embarrassed that I was that affected by it though.
Girl who I connected with
I was getting AA with this girl earlier and hesitated, but I finally decided to go talk to her. She was a really cool, attractive, and fun girl to talk to, and we definitely had attraction going (she was returning my physical escalation, had a lot in common) but unfortunately, she wound up meeting a guy that night who she decided she was "with". I talked to the guy as well, and he was a cool dude, but my hesitation caused her to meet someone else.
When I said bye to her finally, she blew me a kiss and gave me a hug. Is it wrong to swoop in? How would you even do it? They just met a little bit before hand.
Girl with boyfriend
I started talking to this other girl and a guy, and I was assuming they were just friends (I usually assume the other way around and blow myself out before having a chance). After shooting the shit a while, I asked how they knew each other: they were dating. Dammit.
Slightly shy girl
I opened another group of people, and started talking to this girl. She seemed nice, but she also seemed kind of nervous. I talked to her for a very little bit but wasn't getting too much input from her, until things went awkwardly quiet for a while before she sort of walked back to the friends.
This weekend's revelations
-I can get over AA even though I still get nervous, i have to just not think about it. Easier said than done and some nights are worse than others.
-Seeing others get blown out makes me more nervous.
-I eject WAAAY too quickly, almost like this.
-I really need to improve closing and escalating more.
-I'm not as immune to rejection as I thought... (although I resisted the urge to leave and FORCED myself to stay).
-I have to keep telling myself it's THESE girls who missed out, not me.
TL;DR: Read the BOLD and revelations.
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