Stop at a favored spot, open a mixed set with a legitimate opinion opener from my life about a guy falling out of love with his new wife, needs to crash at my place. Falls flatter than a flounder under a steam roller. Ok...

Bounce to another spot. Notice a HB7-8 sitting there by herself, open within 60 seconds of getting my drink with "So why are you out here alone tonight?" Should have been 30 seconds, oops.

Hooks pretty good. We chat, I kino a little. Her purse was in a chair between us so it was hard. Mistake #1: should have moved the purse and sat closer with something like "hey this music is loud or something and I'm hard of hearing from my time in a band ( work in a DHV )"

We go back and forth, she is smiling and laughing. I'm a grade A conversationalist so no problems there. She moves her body to face mine. Re-opens when I become silent or don't pay attention to her. I'm thinking all is good.

Couple of cool things to point out to new sedditors. I keep awesome vids of me dancing salsa and doing other cool stuff on my phone. Girls love it. Pics make it happens guys. Always have cool shit on your phone.

Towards the end of the night I get her to show me some salsa moves ( she salsas ) but she backs away before I can move in for the kiss. Oops. Fucked up too when we were alone in the "bathroom hallway" without anybody there. Mistake 2 should have said "wow this is romantic" or something and just gone in

Mistake 3 Now I went from curiosity to comfort but forgot to sexualize or build tension at all.

Finally we go outside to leave and she asks "so what are you doing now?" . I get all fucked up and start asking for her phone number. since isn't that code for "take me back to your place lover"? Don't really know because of the next part.

Ask for her number to meet up tomorrow. She refuses to give me her number, say something out about how epic and awesome my texts are, no dice.

So my mistakes where:

  • No sexualization of conversation.
  • Never expressed intent. She was wearing a pretty provocative outfit for what she did. Didn't talk about that at all.
  • Without sexualization or expressing intent I was in the friendzone right away but didn't realize it. Gotta show your a man who has a penis early.
  • Perfect kiss opportunities lost. I refuse to believe kisses are for the end of the night. They are for the early/middle. Don't wait!