Going out alone

RollLegitimate6308 · 2025-06-17T21:31:39+00:00

Go to local small town bars. I live in a small town, and when there is a single man around, the single woman catches on super quick. Also, a smaller, mellowed atmosphere makes a better place to connect.

tilldeathdoiparty · 2025-06-18T20:18:06+00:00

Go to pubs, sit at the wood and start chatting up who ever is next to you, go to this pub everyday for the next month. Don’t spend the whole night there, just a ‘quick one before I meet friends’ or have dinner sometimes. Tip well, be extremely nice to the serving staff, and be known as a happily, generous person.

Do this at a couple of ‘hot-spots’ especially in a business area after work on a Friday, just keep going and making friends eventually you’ll be invited out to hang with the staff. This is all providing you with social proof and then when you approach other women, you’ll look like a stud!

Everyday for a month might be overkill, but you want to be a familiar face, at night clubs you won’t be remembered because it a little too chaotic to actually be noticed on a regular basis. But a pub, by the second week, they might be angling for your tip because it’s good, then you are cracking jokes and making them laugh……

HistorianOk2573 · 2025-06-17T22:34:16+00:00

Mate, seduction in the nightclub is not about chasing or hunting women, it's about attracting them so they choose to come to you. Your job is to figure out how to become the gravitional pull in the room.

You do that when you become the life of the party, dance like no one's watching you, and not paying attention to women at all. Tha'ts when they join u.

women are drawn to the guy who’s already creating the fun without them. Theh guy whos dancing without self-consciousness, vibing with the music, making the bartender smile, sparking energy in the room... That's when they join your vibe

Women don’t want to feel like someone is trying to get something from them, they want to feel like they’re joining something bigger. Your vibe becomes the invitation. Not your approach, not your compliments,...

The moment you stop looking for them and instead become the vibe, they start looking for you.

So have fun in the club all by yourself, do like a little kid who dances on his own at music because it's fun for him and is lost in the music not caring what anybody else thinks. Show that you are not afraid to dance like no one's watching, even if you dance like shit, teh fact that you don't care how ridicilous you look, attracts attention from women. That's when they relax and are more likely to want to join you.

But if you go there to hunt, to seek an outcome, to get a number, to hit on them.. That energy gets them defensive and repels them instantly more often than not.

Individual-Bridge-76 · 2025-06-18T05:56:19+00:00

Love going solo. Talk to bartenders, other guys at the bar, whomever just have fun and be chill. As others have said don’t act like you’re looking or scanning for women. They will make themselves available and when they do be aggressive in terms of escalating to touch. You’ll potentially get shutdown or they’ll move on but that’s ok. This will get rid of the ones that won’t sleep with you quickly giving you more time to find one. Good luck.

TaxRepresentative787 · 2025-06-18T11:06:24+00:00

Bro start talking to dudes, once you wars up it’s easier talking to ladies cuz you’re un the flow

FriendlyWrenChilling · 2025-06-18T15:27:02+00:00

Hello. I've done over 3 thousand approaches at clubs. First is that you do not talk at clubs, use invitational openers which invites her to dance or just a straight up phsycial opener (high energy) on the dancefloor.

Please refer to my post" nightclub guide" for the A-Z breakdown step by step on how you can win at nightclubs. Follow it exactly.

MrBonMot · 2025-06-18T20:15:33+00:00

Talk to everyone. Go in believing that you are there to make friends with everyone in the club/bar whatever. You'll find a group that shares your vibe and hang with them. Then you're no longer on your own

UrbanUnrivaled · 2025-06-18T21:17:07+00:00

Going out to clubs by yourself builds character 👍. Trying day gaming too or change up the kinds of bars you go to. Like somewhere quieter if you’re the type who is better with talking for your game.

ratfooshi · 2025-06-18T21:28:55+00:00

Play a bar game.

Don't let yourself leave until you talked to x amount of people.
Don't make it impossible. If it's 1, it's 1. But that's enough to move the needle.

It's best you practice the same thing, over and over.
Approaching them on impulse, and not giving yourself time to think.
Practice focusing on them and not you. That's the skill to acquire.

The ability to develop attraction out of thin air is one of, if not, our greatest gift. 🔥

JackSquirts · 2025-06-18T02:18:35+00:00

Best bet is go early before it bumps and pull wallflowers to the floor. Meet and pull EVERYONE who's remotely receptive to the floor, then when it gets going, you have a "fanbase" of "friends".

adamlaxmax · 2025-06-18T02:19:23+00:00

Are you at least making friends with people? Im not commenting this as a joke. The Seddit part kinda needs a solid foundation of just being a charismatic or at the very least a sociable guy.

dhereforfun · 2025-06-19T15:20:07+00:00

I’ve went to bars clubs and on vacation solo sone great adventures

Title	Going out alone
Author	Psbrar2001
Upvotes	16
Comments	33
Date	June 17, 2025 9:21 PM UTC (1 year ago)
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