Good looking guy, never had a girlfriend!

TBizzcuit · 2012-05-27T22:55:55+00:00

Can you post a pic?

VMikeL · 2012-05-28T00:33:00+00:00

My advice would be to drop the vanity, because it will be the death of you. I'm short but I'm probably above average, but I don't let that get to me. I help out another guy who's plenty tall, well built better looking, but he's still working his shit out. Allow yourself to be self affacing about your looks, it will teach you how to sexually escalate and sound funny when talkif about your looks rather than just be a cocky douche.

As far as getting a girlfriend, just go and do it. Talk to more girls, get more contact details, and try to make plans with some one. You don't need to crash and burn as you suggested, I still get rejected, but it doesn't need to be a car wreck of a situation.

jk147 · 2012-05-28T15:51:12+00:00

How good looking you are is irrelevant if you don't have the balls to approach. As a man, you are have been stuck with a gender role that requires you to be assertive and approach women. Basically all of the burden of rejection rests on the man. Women have no need to approach men. Attractive women are approached and hit on by men regularly. They have the privilege of being selective. So if a woman sees an attractive man like yourself, she'll give you that look that says "Come talk to me", but if you don't, she hasn't lost anything, because some other guy will approach her.

In my experience, approach anxiety comes from a lack of confidence. So build up your confidence. I suggest reading material about "Inner Game". But one thing you must do is make approaches. If making approaches makes you nervous, then you've got to get comfortable doing them. Go to the mall and approach 20 random women and ask them for their phone numbers.

Strider96 · 2012-05-27T22:32:39+00:00

If you really as good looking as you say, work on other parts of your life and game will come naturally.

SlitherQueen · 2012-05-27T23:23:16+00:00

Women are more reserved then men. Single guys get rejected daily they are used to it. It's second nature, especially if they have ever done online dating. Most women don't have to do the approaching they are selected, therefore, they don't have as much experience with rejection. If they do have the courage to ask a guy out and he turns her down it's a big hit to their confidence, and they are not likely to do so again.

Logically a women would then only approach a guy who she believes she has some what of a good chance with(or is intoxicated). A good looking guy is intimidating, and she believes the chances of failure and embarrassment are not worth the risk. Add on to that the added stigma that good looking guys are "players" and there you go.

Good looking girls are a dime a dozen, truly attractive men are rare. Most men you'll find admit they are "good looking" or "attractive" when in actuality they are far from it. I call it disillusionment, and it's rampant in the online world.

If you were truly as attractive as you say you were, then post a picture on any dating site, or the plenty of sub-reddits here and i'm sure you'll get a girlfriend.

However, a girl has her doubts.

calonord · 2012-05-28T01:29:35+00:00

This is absolutely true!!!!

I also don't like boasting (and would only do so for a job interview or to get accurate advice) but I am quite good looking. it is a factor that gets me early interest but without the techniques of pickup, natural approach and good inner game, there is no way to capitalize. I have gotten very strong interest while being anti-social on multiple occasions and been asked out a few times by good looking girls but flubbed all the occasions due to awful inner game and no experience. Attractiveness is probably about a sixth or maybe even a tenth of the basis for your success, the rest is all you. Good post OP.

dantaeos · 2012-05-28T01:43:56+00:00

Cool. So it means you have garbage personality.

Just stop thinking about you're looks as if it means girl owe you their pussy. They don't care if you look like Adonis. Work on your game, go to RSD Nation and read the articles and watch the free videos starting with this. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fbfFLt1a8Dk

khanline · 2012-05-28T15:26:54+00:00

My Best advice i can think of with backstory and a link below Hey buddy, i feel ya. I have been there. Really, I i was about your age when everything changed for me. I came from getting laughed at just going near a girl to well, about couple months ago i was dating four wicked hot girls! The coolest part was that they knew about each other. They hated it. Haha But im sure those are the problems you're looking for right. Well, i DID work at it. I worked really really really hard at becoming the man i am today. You will have to change who you are and spend a little money. Ive told ppl that they need to change and they always say i want to find somebody who likes me for me shit. Let go of that. Your always going to be you you just need to become the best version of yourself. There is a sub culture of information on dating and crap like that. Almost all of it is shit. Telling you to dress in affliction or skate wear and wear a lot of jewlry. Yes that works too, and i DO suggest trying it. Dont buy into it too much. I personally like to have a game that doesnt come from my dresser. The point is to connect with the opposite sex on an intimate level. Which comes from you not your clothes. I wish i could say start inside and work out. But your probably a nicer better person already by not being that meathead who never has to deal with the whole impossible to get a girl lifestyle we have shared. I started with tricks and clothes and it works. Worked outside in. It was extremely uncomfortable. Got made fun of by my friends.... untill i was the only one who started bringing the girls around. And then taking them to my house. Or whatever. Dont get me wrong im NOT a player. I am not good in clubs. I suck at social situations for the most part. But i do know how to treat and talk to women. I HIGHLY recommend the spark to my change. http://www.doubleyourdating.com/?CJPID=3698531 I swear to you this one is different and i am not some guy pushing product. I just respect this man and his words have improved my life forever. Like i was saying before there is a lot of books and othere "dating experts" out there. I was fooled by many of them. This one is different. This one takes ordinary and makes it extraordinary! If you are not ready to buy it, (i dont know if they still do it. They did 7-8 yrs ago) if you sign up for an email list. Youll get some awesome free advice letters and if you write them they actually respond. Best of luck to you. And someday share this guy to somebody just like you. Because im forever in his debt for making my life the way it is.

Title	Good looking guy, never had a girlfriend!
Author	Deadinthehead
Upvotes	3
Comments	29
Date	May 27, 2012 10:02 PM UTC (14 years ago)
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