Having a hard time approaching.

zapadz · 2022-10-04T05:28:44+00:00

Here are some videos on approaching

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2bQjfTHlwzU

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OJKiFisdi5g

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XMChZC2fopI

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JPCU03Dp8Zw

Try the “start conversations with women” and get her number videos here http://davidtianphd.com/masterclass-content/

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=050mAG7O4LY&list=PL76nuCstxs7jpcbJ3B5Cbrs7-4gTwjBWF&index=1

OrzhovPalatine · 2022-10-04T05:33:49+00:00

If you have no idea what to say and need a quick fix you could go with this.

Walk up to a girl and say "look I dont have any game but let's see what happens". Its honest and witty.

Keep in mind your tone should be very casual, dont go saying that in a slow monotone voice.

This game is all attrition at the end fo the day. You will only improve by messing up and getting back up again. Each failure will develop your frame of reference and you'll be able to calibrate on the spot over time. You just have to survive the emotional taxation from all the Ls you will go through along the way.

Dont know what to say, throw everything at the wall and see what sticks. If it works for you repeat. Trial and error.

You will fuck up and that's ok, let yourself fuck up.

I wouldnt do it at the gym though esp if you like that gym. Talk to women you're unlikely to see again

MikeLPause · 2022-10-04T12:34:54+00:00

I have the same problem 😭 she works at my gym too and keeps glancing at me. I've even helped her arrange weights one time but didn't quit start a conversation cuz i was just shy. We better not be talking about the same girl 🤣

The-Pharmassist · 2022-10-04T09:58:00+00:00

With women just be yourself but don’t make it about you. Talk to her about her. They love to hear themselves talking.

dobbs1997 · 2022-10-04T17:27:33+00:00

Honestly man you have to really simplify it, There’s a girl at the gym you find attractive & im sure you wanna have sex with & that’s completely fine btw, it doesn’t make you a douchebag as some may think. So, you simply approach her & suggest you two do something together (preferably something chill, like coffee or walk in the park, i don’t recommend dinner) & from there she either says yes or no. Guys make scenarios like this a big deal because they put the woman on a pedestal so they hope and wish for things to go well.

2022-10-04T16:52:09+00:00

If you have approach anxiety the best way to deal with it is try indirect approaches and gradually over a period of time make the conversations you have longer and then show intent. It's not going to help you with a specific girl you have a crush on but over time if you do it a lot with lots of different women you'll slowly get more comfortable doing it and better at it.

For example start by just asking a question to women you see who you like then walk away. In the gym you could maybe ask if they have spin classes there, if in the street ask where the nearest ATM is etc.

Once you're in the habit of doing that add to it by making a cold read like, "you're not from around here are you", listen to her answer then walk away.

Next stage is to respond to what she says after the cold read "no I'm from Toronto", "I thought I could hear an accent, that's beautiful city what made you move here"

You can keep doing this slowly adding to the length of the conversations, when you're ready you can start to show intention with teasing, eye contact, smiling, non physical compliments "I love your energy, you're so chill"

Then eventually ask for her number. "I have to go now but you'll have to give me your number as it was fun talking to you"

If you take baby steps like this and are consistent the approach anxiety will slowly go away.

Majestic_Meal_5655 · 2022-10-05T01:54:05+00:00

It's hilarious when dudes think they are good looking. Chick's dictate that not you or other dudes. It appears to me that you haven't really found a girl you are willing to make an effort to approach. You wanna learn how to swim you gotta get wet. Now go get rejected by 90% of all chick's you meet. Learn to breath in the rejection, breath it in like the very air. 😆

2022-10-04T09:14:47+00:00

You should work with what you have. Any detail from your inner state or outer surroundings that can empower your conversation and connect you to a girl. Don't defy anxiety, use it wisely to get into proper context smoothly.

slurpeesez · 2022-10-04T21:51:34+00:00

Bro!!! I kid you not this works. Notice that attraction, and just straightup do this.

Give her initial eye contact, very very very slight smile, dont raise those cheeks too much, look down for 2 seconds with your eyes, look up and meet her again. After this if shes looking at your eyes still, shes game. If not? Move on.

If shes still looking at your eyes after this little gesture that has so much hidden meaning behind it, you know shes ready to engage in conversation at the very least. I usually go with, "you are so pretty". Then walk away. The next time i see her its a W 90% of the time.

Also edit: when you say "you are so pretty" have some intelligence with how you say this part. Make your voice light and abrubt. and dont quickly walk away. You want to give her 2-3 seconds to take this in, then walk away with confidence. Not lookin like your scared, more of a "your a busy man" attitude.

kissklub · 2022-10-04T05:22:16+00:00

a really easy way to open conversations is w a compliment! like a genuine 1 ofc lol but just tell them you really like (insert thin). follow up w some stuff to get the conversation going like names, ask about what they’re drinking/workout routines & stuff? just open ended things that can lead into genuine conversations

cassidy-sinatra · 2022-10-04T05:58:21+00:00

What city are you in I teach and I can give you all the tips but it won’t matter if you can’t get past the anxiety

notaproblem333 · 2022-10-04T19:18:17+00:00

Get a wing

cryptosis420 · 2022-10-04T19:47:37+00:00

Stop being so careful and start being more careless.

inline6throwaway · 2022-10-04T22:37:37+00:00

You might also just have to start physically walking towards a woman that you're attracted to and say something to her before your brain has a chance to come up with an excuse not to. And now you're in the position where you have to make something out of it lol. It may be rough at first but I would imagine that if you do this enough times you will become very natural and comfortable with it

motovation101 · 2022-10-05T13:29:48+00:00

Just nail a couple shots of whiskey like 30 minutes before work is over and go ask her if she wants to hang out after work

Nikola_Ristic · 2022-10-05T13:34:05+00:00

Buy Todd Valentine's System. That's 99% of what you are gonna need. Maybe go for Julien's Tengame/Pimp later on. He has more of a crazy style but for systematic approach and breakdowns, Todd is king.

"nEvEr PaY uGhHh"

Sure, go ahead and spent 50 working hours to piece together something that resembles a well-put course and it's still gonna be way too inferior to his System.

The dude has done this shit for 15+ years and the course is systematic, explains everything in stages etc.

If you can't invest 400$ in a better social life, you are not serious about it.

P.S. His Winner game program is free but it's shit - the content in it is okay but it's not even a trailer compared to the System.

EDIT: It's 300$. Dirt cheap compared to the value you are getting.

Title	Having a hard time approaching.
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Date	October 4, 2022 4:02 AM UTC (3 years ago)
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