Having trouble creating "connections" in my envrioment (social bachata and salksa dancing)

Canadian-Seductioner · 2021-11-14T17:56:22+00:00

I have seen some girls couple of times and danced with them but the interaction alwayys goes like, "wanna dance?" ok and then, thank you for dancing. Nothing more, and that frustrates me.

Because that's exactly what salsa and bachata socials are about, dancing. They can be a great way to meet women, but you need to alter your expectations here. The expectation is that you're there to dance because you enjoy it, nothing more. The moment you break that code by trying to hit on the girls you're dancing with, you will get shunned by the community.

The best time to try to make conversation with girls at these socials is when they're not actually dancing. When they're taking a break to have a drink or just rest, that's the best time. Even then though, you don't want to come on too strong. Play it indirect and see if she's giving you IOIs. If so, try to get her IG and do text game to get her out one on one. Given the context of how you met, one of the easiest things to do is say "we should practice together".

Save the dancing socials for dancing and use text game to get them on dates instead.

nupollution · 2021-11-14T22:38:24+00:00

Ask questions!! “Where did you learn to dance?” “Do you know any other styles of dance?” Etc. Then ask a follow up based on her answer, keep the conversation flowing!

dark_helmt8 · 2021-11-14T18:01:29+00:00

Brotha, you had the right idea with the classes. The clubs or the actual events are not the ideal places because your social value might not be as high at those places (e.g. not owning the club, not being the best dancer, not looking like a male model etc....). I would focus your efforts on the classes entirely.

boycott-mondays · 2021-11-15T02:03:32+00:00

I don't know if I have been doing it wrong, but when I'm at a dance Spanish club, i Usually I talk to them while I'm dancing with them. I would flirt the women and make them laugh.

Dancing is hard, I know this, the girl knows this. I try to lighten the mood and get her to laugh. I never hit on them, otherwise it would make them feel uncomfortable. Usually girls would give me there numbers or invite me over after.

(Granted I met some women who hate talking while dancing, but that's like less then 1 percent (I think like 2 girls))

BangReign · 2021-11-16T23:43:28+00:00

Bro you go to salsa class to dance and they are there for the same thing, either communicate more than just asking them to dance and expecting more which is Hella creepy or stop going. Dancing is just an opener you can't just go we danced sex!? Gotta start imagining whatd you want in someone if they started hitting on you, I have a feeling what you are doing wouldn't entrigue anyone

Title	Having trouble creating "connections" in my envrioment (social bachata and salksa dancing)
Author	bobyd
Upvotes	2
Comments	15
Date	November 14, 2021 5:24 PM UTC (4 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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